Recently, I’ve been having a tough time. Lots of flashbacks. It’s been really tough, dealing with these hateful memories of being abused. I’ve learned some ways to cope, though, & I’d like to share them..
- When they happen, let them. Remember. Focus on the memory that is fighting to be remembered.
- Talk to God about it. Tell him everything you remember. Get the negativity out of you! He can handle it.
- Then, listen for His response. He will tell you what you need to know about it, & reassure you.
- Be gentle & understanding with yourself. Yes, this is an abnormal thing, having flashbacks. But, it doesn’t mean YOU are abnormal! You have a normal reaction to very abnormal circumstances. You were abused, & it wasn’t your fault!
- Create a “Joy List.” My dearest friend told me this one just the other day- create a list of things that bring you joy. Big & small things. I’ve been working on mine. Some things on there are: spending time with my furkids, spending time with those I love & who love me, knitting, buying yarn, lightening bugs, stargazing, listening to the rain or gentle thunderstorms, watching snow fall, & buying a cool new purse.
- Today, I had another flashback, but this time instead of it being from my childhood as usual, it was a bad incident with my ex-husband. In the midst of it, I halfway asked God why? I thought that marriage & all of the baggage was behind me. He told me that while I’ve forgiven him & moved on, I haven’t forgiven myself. That was the root of the flashback- I am still angry with myself for ignoring the signs that told me he wasn’t the man for me.
I hope this helps some of you who are also suffering with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (very common among abuse victims), or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. God bless you, Dear Reader. Have a wonderful day!