July 18, 2012

Good morning, Dear Readers!

I wanted to let you know that I have learned some very interesting things about flashbacks in the last few days.  I had a flashback on Sunday, & had a strong urge to do something to keep me focused on reality.  I was near this computer, so I just started looking up old teachers on facebook.  It was all I could think of at the moment.  It was so odd- the urge to cling to reality was so very strong.  I believe God put that urge in me.  Later,  I did some research on coping with flashbacks, & learned that is a good thing.  It’s called grounding.  It is a really good idea to have something you can see, hear, touch or smell that keeps you in reality when the bad memory is trying to take over.  It helps you to keep in mind that while yes, the memory is terrible, it is still only a memory- it isn’t happening, nor can it hurt you again.  I read some interesting grounding techniques:

  • Hold an icecube in your hand.
  • Smell something with a very strong scent (I have some tiny vials like are used with giving out samples of perfume & cologne.  I put in some perfume my late Grandmom gave me.  It is rather strong, but is also attached to a very good time spent with her)
  • Touch something extremely soft- silk, fleece, anything soft & snuggly.
  • Wrap yourself in something very soft, like a special blanket or sweater.  (I have some gorgeous, very soft pale pink yarn- I’m knitting myself an afghan.  I started to knit it just for fun, but I think it will help with the flashbacks as well).  It is kind of like receiving a hug.

I’m sure you get the idea & can add to this list.  I pray it helps those of you suffering with flashbacks!  God bless you!  🙂


Filed under Abuse and the Healing Journey, Mental Health

2 responses to “July 18, 2012

  1. mimi brown

    Thank you Cynthia! I love all of your blogs they all help me in so many differenty ways. These are especially helpful with my anxiety that I have from past abuse. Keeping things of comfort close to us is so helpful. I even get anxiety at church and keeping a cold bottle of water or something special to me in my purse lets me know I am safe.


    • Thank you so much, Mimi! I’m glad you are benefitting from my blog!
      Funny how little things can give us a sense of security, isn’t it? I have been a bit anxious today, not sure why, & I keep sniffing that perfume my Grandmom gave me… it helps me smile even when anxious. It reminds me of good times with a wonderful lady, & I thank God for her. Maybe that’s part of why things are necessary in tough times- to bring us back to focusing on God, even in a round about way..


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