Last Minute Mother’s Day Thoughts For Abused Daughters

Good morning, Dear Readers.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I know many of you are suffering, because your mother was (probably still is) abusive.  It doesn’t help that everywhere you turn, commercials, ads & even well meaning but oblivious people are telling you to celebrate your mother tomorrow.  After all, she’s the only mother you’ll ever have, & she won’t be around forever!!

..sighs..

My heart goes out to each of you, & I’m praying for everyone reading this to have peace tomorrow.  I’m sorry for not only the abuse you have endured & continue to endure, but for the guilt trips you undoubtedly hear each Mother’s Day.  Ignore the guilt!  While your mother deserves basic respect because she is your mother, that doesn’t mean you need to praise her endlessly for being a fantastic mother if she wasn’t. 

“But it’ll hurt her feelings if I don’t make a big fuss!”   You may be thinking.  True, but did you ever think that if she wanted you to treat her well, she should have treated you well?  We reap what we sow, according to Galatians 6:7-9.  Your mother is no exception.  If you can’t make yourself buy her an overly sweet, sentimental card & a fancy gift, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or a bad daughter- it means she is reaping what she has sown.  How can sowing seeds of name calling, ridicule, mind games or physical or sexual abuse create a harvest of love, deep respect & the desire to praise?  That’s like planting green beans & expecting a harvest of apples!

Take care of yourself, Dear Readers, & don’t forget to be good to yourself tomorrow!  Whether or not you have children, chances are you mother someone.  A niece, nephew, a friend or neighbor’s child or even pets like me.  Do something nice for YOU!  Tomorrow & every day.  ❤

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5 responses to “Last Minute Mother’s Day Thoughts For Abused Daughters

  1. Debi

    Thank you Cynthia. That was well stated and filled with loving understanding. Very helpful.

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  2. Thanks Cynthia for your excellent insight into Mother’s Day and all that it involves for daughters of narcissistic mothers. I haven’t bought a sweet, sickly, sentimental card for many years. I stand looking at the words on those cards and just can’t bring myself to buy one. So I find a nice card with a great looking dog on it and no words inside and write something appropriate that doesn’t make me cringe.

    Again, thank you for sharing your wonderful writing with us. You tell it like it really is and that’s so refreshing.

    Margaret

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    • Thank you so much, Margaret! Your kind words have just made my day.. 🙂

      Oh absolutely! I totally relate. Those sentimental cards feel so fake, don’t they? Thank God for pretty but blank cards! They can be a life saver.

      Thank you again! ❤

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