Good afternoon, Dear Readers!
A couple of days ago, I had a really rough afternoon. I had 2 flashbacks. Well, kinda 3 actually since the first 2 were one right after the other. Not fun at all. It made me glad wordpress lets you schedule blog posts so I could take a couple of days to just relax & heal!
I thought about it last night & thought it might be a good idea to post some ways to cope with flashbacks, body memories & panic attacks since coping with them all involves pretty much the same things.
First, I’ll explain each one for clarity’s sake.
Flashbacks are when a traumatic memory comes to the forefront of your mind, & you feel as if you are reliving it. The memory threatens to overtake you- the fear, anger, the sorrow overwhelm you & it can be nearly impossible to tell reality from the memory.
Body memories are quite similar to flashbacks, except instead of you feeling the emotions of the traumatic memory, you feel the physical sensations. You may not even remember the traumatic event, only how it made your body feel. If you were in a cold place when it happened, for example, you may suddenly feel cold even though the temperature is 75*.
Panic attacks are anxiety related, & happen when anxiety becomes too much for your body to handle. Suddenly your heart races, your blood pressure rises, you become increasingly agitated, & you may feel like you’re having a heart attack. (I was sure I was having a heart attack when I had my first panic attack in 1996.) The attack may last a few minutes, then gradually dissipates, & you feel drained for the next day or so.
While flashbacks, body memories, & panic attacks are all different, I’ve found ways to cope with them successfully are quite similar.
All three require something to keep your focus on the here & now, where you are safe. To do this, you need things that involve your senses. Strong scents & extreme textures seem to work best for most people. I like the scent of lavender (it’s also used in aromatherapy to calm anxiety) & Sweet Honesty perfume. When I was quite young, my paternal grandmom gave me a bottle of that perfume, & I’ve loved it since. It brings back a memory of her, plus it’s a fairly strong scent, so it helps keep me grounded. I have 2 small vials (the type perfume samples come in) with each scent in them & keep them handy at all times. Regarding textures, I like something either extremely soft or very rough. Focusing on how those textures feel helps to keep me focused on the “here & now” rather than the traumatic memory or anxiety. Snuggle a stuffed animal, touch some rough carpet, hold an ice cube in your hand or snuggle up in a very soft sweater or blanket.
You also can focus on what is around you. Focus on whatever details are around you. If you’re at the park, for example, focus on the feel of the breeze blowing on your face, or the shapes & colors of the leaves on trees. If you’re sitting on a chair, really feel the texture of it & focus on it. Whatever you can do to keep your mind not focused 100% on the flashback, body memory or panic attack helps to take some of its power away.
Remind yourself that you are safe. The trauma isn’t happening to you again- it’s only a nasty memory that can’t hurt you. If you’re near a mirror, look at yourself in the mirror & reassure yourself that you are safe.
Don’t close your eyes. This can make it harder to distinguish reality from memory during a flashback.
Breathe slowly & deeply. In & out through your nose. Feel your chest & stomach take in the air, then slowly release it. Be aware of when your heartbeat slows as you calm down.
Create a small container of items that can help you during these situations. Those small vials I mentioned that are used for perfume samples? Get a couple of them & fill them with whatever scents help you to feel safe or bring back a happy memory. Include something that feels good when you touch it as well, such as a small river rock or polished gemstone. Keep this small bag of items with you at all times so when flashbacks, body memories or panic attacks happen, you can be prepared.
As frustrating & painful as flashbacks, body memories & panic attacks can be, there are some ways to cope with them. They can be managed! Above are some ideas that can help you, & I hope will inspire you to come up with some more ideas of your own.