Most of us know how to identify narcissists in real life- the haughty attitude is a clear sign of an overt narcissist, while the sweet, innocent act as the person is trying to manipulate you is a giveaway that you’re dealing with a covert narcissist. Unfortunately, when you participate in social media or in online forums, detecting narcissists isn’t so easy. Online verses in person gives significant disadvantages. In person, you can read body language or voice tones, but online, such helpful clues are unavailable. This means the clues are much more subtle.
So how can you identify a narcissist simply via online contact?
First, if a person doesn’t ask how you’re doing, what’s going on in your life, or similar questions, that is a red flag. Even people who aren’t close will usually ask questions about the other person’s life. Maybe not every single time, sometimes people have an off day, but if not asking anything about you is the norm? Red flag!
Second, a narcissist isn’t open to hearing the views of others on any topic. Politics, religion, relationships.. the narcissist knows it all, & if you don’t believe that, just ask the narcissist..
Third, narcissists don’t “agree to disagree.” If you disagree with a narcissist, she will take offense. If she disagrees with you, then you need to hear about how wrong you are.
Closely related to the previous point, narcissists will beat you to death with their opinion if they feel you aren’t hearing them. I had a dream once I wrote about here that made this point clear to me. I recommend you read about it- the dream clearly demonstrated this point to me.
Narcissists also have absolutely no interest in what you have to say. You can tell a narcissist anything, no matter how important, & they won’t care. If it doesn’t directly affect a narcissist, it doesn’t matter to a narcissist.
And, narcissists aren’t humble. If you give one a complement, you won’t hear “Thank you!” They instead come across with this attitude of “It’s about time you noticed” You’ll be lucky if they give you a little smiley face in response…