Recently I was talking with someone who made sure I know she believes my writing isn’t important, even knowing that I believe writing is one of my purposes in life.
This sort of thing happens a lot more often than I like. My writing as well as what I write about are often trivialized. I also know it happens to so many others who have been abused & share their story, which breaks my heart. I’ve been dealing with invalidation for so long, that I’m used to it. It makes me angry, but I know that what I said is valid, & people who invalidate others have issues. Normal, healthy people respect other people enough not to trivialize their painful experiences, even if they don’t understand them or agree with them. Many others who experience this painful type of invalidation haven’t reached that place yet, & are discouraged or deeply hurt by such cruel words. This makes me so angry, which is partly why I write about this topic so often.
I read something that explained beautifully why those of us who have been through abuse should continue to tell our story, & I wanted to share it with you today…
“There is nothing safe in sharing your story. There is nothing safe about turning your own soul inside out with the details that come slowly or quickly, from shallow breaths or deep within, from the light or from the shadows. There is nothing safe about sharing the images painted within your memories, the language that proves a life has been lived, the details scratched into paper from blood, from skin, from love, & fear. Nothing protects what is spoken, read or heard. There are no shields against bitter misunderstanding, jealousy or prejudice- yet we speak. We sing. We write in the hopes of changing the world. We share the truth we have lived & the characters we have loved. In moments of courage, we give it all away.” – Mardra Sikora
Please remember this wonderful quote when someone tries to keep you quiet! You have every right to share your story & to help others by doing so. In fact, you should celebrate yourself by being brave enough to share your story & caring enough to do it in spite of your own fears!