I never felt comfortable sharing this information until now. Maybe it’s finally the right timing, God’s timing? In any case, I hope this helps you. xoxo
A few years ago, I finally decided to start to get to know the real me. Not the dysfunctional person my narcissistic mother tried to make me into, not my narcissistic ex husband, not even friends. The real me, the person God created me to be. When asking Him to help me do this one day, He told me to study the personality of the wolf- that is what I am really like. I did this & found it fascinating. Granted, not all wolves have the same personality, but they all seem to share some basic qualities in common. Many of those traits were also shared by my husky/wolf, Danya, who passed away in ’09. He was the one of our three dogs we’ve had that I got along best with, because we understood each other very well. Now I understand why we got along so well.
I assume God used this information about wolves because I’m an avid animal lover, & I am ever glad He did. It’s been very interesting for me & comforting too, finally knowing who I really am. It’s also given me a new fascination with wolves. They are truly amazing animals! In fact, as I write this, I’m also watching a show on the Nat Geo channel called, “She Wolf” about a rare alpha female wolf (usually alphas are male). She was absolutely incredible! Strong, brave, determined, a natural leader, a wonderful mama to her pups, playful & gentle. It amazes me God sees me as similar to such an amazing creature as She Wolf!
Have you ever asked God to show you who He made you to be? If not, I strongly urge you to do so! I don’t know if He’ll compare you to an animal or not like He did with me, but be prepared to be amazed whether He does or not. I certainly was- I never would I have thought I would share such character traits with the majestic, strong wolf!
God created you to be someone special. I know, that is hard to believe when you grew up with a narcissistic mother treating you as if you were merely a tool to be used as she wanted, but it’s true! Today I challenge you to throw off what you think you should be, to get rid of the dysfunctional beliefs that were put on you so unfairly. Instead, talk to God about becoming who He wants you to be, who He made you to be! The person He made you to be will feel so much more natural & right. Granted, the change won’t happen immediately, but as you learn to rely on God to help you, the new you will develop.
I’ve noticed something else too- as I’ve changed, my narcissistic mother isn’t happy about it, but at the same time, she is respecting my boundaries (albeit grudgingly) for the first time! I think she realizes that I now have a strength I didn’t before, & also realizes that strength means I won’t put up with her games like I once did. Your narcissistic mother may respond the same way. I hope she does!
Oh, & just in case you’re wondering about the personality traits of a wolf, here is what I found. Wolves are generally..
- Friendly (friendly with other adults, amiable with pups).
- Strongest personality trait is that they make strong emotional attachments to others.
- Natural aversion to fighting. Will do much to avoid conflicts/fighting.
- Kind
- Agreeable
- Non-violent personality.
- Although gentle, they will fight when necessary.
- Highly intelligent, able to learn & remember events.
- High degree of adaptability.
- Gentle
- Confident
- Natural leaders.
- Wildly playful.
Cynthia Bailey-Rug, Christian Author 