I have learned that something rather magical happens to many folks when they hit 40. Suddenly they no longer have the patience for abusive people & will confront them on their behavior. They become more outspoken without being hurtful, & more free with their praise. They begin to practice self-care for the first time. They are more compassionate & caring, because they have seen & been through some pretty rough things. They finally are freer as well. Free to be themselves, & free to do as they like without caring about the criticisms & judgments of others.
It’s a wonderful thing!!
If you aren’t 40 yet or if you passed 40 without experiencing this, don’t think you need to be 40 to experience this. It’s never too early or too late to improve yourself! Ask God to help you change however you need or want to. He will do so gladly. He wants you to be happy & if changing will help you accomplish that, He will be glad to help you.
Also think about some things & ask yourself questions. You don’t really need to worry about what other people think of you, so why does it matter to you what others think? Are you putting others before yourself constantly? Why? If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, I’m sure you believe (as I still battle with sometimes) that everyone else is more important & you don’t deserve to do good things for yourself. That is a lie! You DO deserve to do good things for yourself & take care of yourself. In fact, if you want to help others so much, you need to take care of yourself. If you don’t, you won’t have the physical or mental strength to help other people.
Do some soul searching. Ask yourself the tough questions like the ones in the previous paragraph & honestly answer them. You may surprise yourself. You also will become aware of some changes you need to make to help yourself live a happier life.