Have you ever read the Oscar Wilde book, “The Picture Of Dorian Gray”? It’s an incredible story of Dorian Gray, who commissions a painting of himself. The painting ages while Dorian stays young. Also, Dorian is known for being an exceptionally handsome young man. The painting grows ugly as well as old, because all of the evil inside Dorian doesn’t manifest on himself, but on the painting instead. Every time Dorian does some horrible deed, the painting grows more & more grotesque.
The story is beautifully written & among my favorite books ever.
This book came to mind recently. This got me to thinking about how what is on the inside shows on the outside. We aren’t as fortunate as Dorian, having a picture of ourselves age & show the ugliness inside while we stay attractive. What is in the inside truly shows on the outside.
I remember my maternal grandmother. Her eyes were stone cold & I think quite unsettling. Her smile always had a forced look to it. She was a narcissist & a very cruel person. Yet, my paternal granddad, who was a kind, loving, giving, Christian man had very warm eyes & an equally warm & easy smile.
I believe knowing that what is on the inside shows on the outside is a good thing. It can help you to figure out who is a good person & who isn’t. Words aren’t always a good indicator of what someone is like, because people can (& do) lie. Actions can be done out of obligation, desire to make a good impression or other selfish motives. Body language & facial expressions are a very good indicator, I think the best, of a person’s heart.
I look for people with a very easy, ready smile. Fake smiles are a big red flag with me. A smile that looks like the person smiling is in physical pain or hates to smile always tell me something is amiss with them. (Granted, we all have off days & smiling isn’t easy, but that is not usually the norm.)
If someone’s eyes are so cold that you have trouble making eye contact, that is another good indicator something is wrong. Have you ever noticed the eyes of a serial killer? Check it out sometime. John Wayne Gacy, Jeffrey Dahmer & The Green River Killer (his real name escapes me at the moment) all had very dead eyes. Their eyes creep me out! People with a little sparkle in their eyes & who gladly make eye contact are who I want around. Those people tend to be kind & honest, which are two very important qualities.
I know this post is very different than my usual ones, but I hope it helps you anyway. 🙂