Abusive, narcissistic people somehow believe they have the right to tell you who you are, what you like or don’t like & to determine your worth & value in this world. When this happens, you can lose yourself if you are not aware of what they are doing.
This happened to me. I really had no idea who I am my entire life. I was only aware of a very few things that I genuinely felt strongly about. Everything else was a result of being told that I felt a certain way. I realized this was happening when I was in my early 30’s, & tried halfheartedly to learn who I really was, who God wanted me to be for a while after that. Once I hit 40 though, I decided I had to get to know the real me, & I am very glad I did.
I’ve come to learn that the real me is a much more interesting person than the dysfunctional, mousy person that the narcissists in my life tried to make me into. I have no tolerance for abuse & nastiness, & will call people out on it now. I have more varied interests now that others are not telling me what I like & don’t like. I also have learned to trust God, to listen to what He says I am, rather than listen to the warped views of dysfunctional, evil people.
You can find these things & more out about yourself too!
Stop listening to what dysfunctional, selfish people have to say about you. You have a great deal of value! You are a unique, special person created by God Himself to do great things! Start listening to what God says about you & reject what others say. The motives of any narcissist are always self serving, & not for your best interest at all, so why would you allow someone so dysfunctional to determine anything about you? Instead, listen to God & listen to your heart. You’ll discover you are an amazing individual!
Cynthia Bailey-Rug, Christian Author 