One thing many victims of narcissistic abuse have told me is people have told them they are too negative if they discuss their experiences. I’ve heard it too. “You’re too negative.” “Your problem is you don’t think positive” (I guess thinking positive will fix my C-PTSD.. if it was only that easy!)
What people fail to realize is telling the truth about narcissistic abuse isn’t being negative. It’s telling facts. It’s telling your story. It’s raising awareness of this awful epidemic. It also helps us to heal, discussing things. (The constant gaslighting/crazy making made us doubt ourselves so much, & talking about things helps us to keep a healthy perspective & remember the narcissist was the real problem.)
There is nothing negative or critical or even dishonorable about discussing your experiences with narcissistic abuse! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! Talk about it as you are comfortable. Help raise awareness! Help yourself heal!
One important thing to remember though- if you’re seeking validation by discussing your story, you may not get it. Many people don’t understand narcissistic abuse, nor do they want to. Even those close to you may invalidate your pain. You have to accept that not everyone will provide the support & understanding you crave.
If you’re worried about the narcissist finding out you’re talking about what she did to you, I understand. It’s scary. Narcissists, in particular narcissistic parents, can be scary, especially during a narcissistic rage. But, keep in mind- there is really nothing they can do to you anymore! Scream at you? Call you names? Talk badly about you to other people? Chances are, after years of it, you’re so used to these things they barely phase you anymore. I understand! As a grown woman, I sometimes get afraid someone will tell my parents what I write about. I remember my mother screaming & raging at me as a kid. When that happens, I remind myself that I’ve experienced her rages so many times, that I’ve become pretty numb to them. I also remind myself that this isn’t just her story- it is mine too. I have every right to discuss it with whoever & however I want to.