I was watching one of my favorite shows on the ID channel last night, “Deadly Women.” It tells stories of women who have killed, many are serial killers. Interesting stuff when you’re into psychology & crime like I am. Not to mention, it scares hubby- he swears I watch it to get ideas which entertains me.. lol
One of last night’s stories involved a woman who was married, had a couple of children & her widowed mother lived with her family. This woman wanted to present the image of being far wealthier than they really were, so she ran up a lot of debt, & continually took money from her elderly mother. Eventually, her mother stopped giving her money & she ran out of options. She decided to strangle her mother & attempted to make it look like a suicide. As soon as her mother was dead, she spent a lot of her mother’s money. The police figured out what happened & arrested the woman. The narrator of the story said there was no evidence of mental illness or abuse in this woman’s life.
At this point, my mind was blown. So obsessed with appearances that she murdered her own mother- does that sound like the actions of a mentally stable person?!
I got to thinking… how many people watching that show blindly believed the story as it was told? How many were shocked by her actions because someone said there was no evidence of mental illness? Probably a great deal of the viewers. Most people tend to believe something, anything, when it is said with enough confidence, & that narrator sounded confident in the information she read.
I think that can be a very dangerous thing, believing people so readily. Not that everyone is a liar or out to get you, naturally, but the truth is some people *are* liars or *are* out to get you. If you’ve dealt with even just one narcissist in your life, you know that is the truth. But also, even a well meaning person may inadvertently lie to you or mislead you simply because they have wrong information. I believe it truly is best always to weigh all information for yourself.
I felt after watching that show last night that I should remind you, Dear Reader, that it’s best to think for yourself! Don’t blindly take someone at their word, no matter how convinced they are of what they are saying. Consider Matthew 10:16: “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” (KJV) While Jesus gave this advice to his disciples, it seems like very good advice to me for anyone. I have asked God for wisdom & discernment, & I believe it has helped me in this area tremendously.
I tell you this even about my writing- never blindly listen to what I say! While I try to provide accurate & helpful information, I can be wrong, Or, sometimes what I write about may not work for you or you simply disagree with something I write. There are no one size fits all solutions in life, & especially when dealing with the main topic of my writing- narcissism. So please, when you read what I write, consider it & how it relates to your individual situation. Hopefully it helps you, but if it doesn’t, don’t try to make it work for you. Find another solution that does work for you.