I read a wonderful quote recently & unfortunately I have no clue who said it. It reads,
“Something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor.”
Not only are those lovely words, but it’s very true.
Devastating events are painful, & no one wants to go through them. Unfortunately though, they are an inevitable part of life. Trying to focus on the good that can come out of bad things will help you get through them. I admit, that can seem impossible at the time, but it really is possible.
Getting sick last year, I quickly gained a new perspective. I stopped sweating the small stuff. I abandoned friendships that were one sided or superficial. I realized I had to stop putting up with being mistreated, & say no or stand up for myself. I cared less what others thought of me & my beliefs, & became a bit more outspoken about them. This chased some people out of my life. The symptoms forced me to rest often, which I truly needed to do but didn’t do before. (Although I still struggle in this area, it has improved somewhat) So in a strange way, I’m actually glad for what happened- it caused me to become mentally healthier & take better care of myself.
I know this isn’t easy to do, especially in the throes of a painful situation, but look for what you are learning or how you are growing. If you feel unable to do so, ask God to help you. While doing this may not seem useful, it really can be. You’ll gain wisdom you didn’t have, which can help you to heal & maybe even to help others as well. Learning about narcissism was that way for me. I was devastated by narcissistic abuse my entire life, then suddenly I learned I wasn’t the problem- NPD was! That knowledge helped pick me back up after being knocked down, & eventually to help other victims too. I can’t say I’m grateful for the abuse I’ve gone through, but I am grateful that God brought good from it. It means that suffering counted for something!
The same thing can happen to you, too. Why not make a decision today to allow God to work good things out of your pain? Ask Him to do so, & He will.