I had a very interesting experience the other night. I had a dream about my husband’s parents. Suddenly the dream changed a bit & it was just his mother & I. She hugged me & said she was sorry for everything she did to me.
When I woke up, I was WIDE awake, so I figured I might as well utilize the time & ask God what the heck that was about. When she was alive, she seemed to have no guilt for treating me badly, so I thought maybe this was some sort of weird wishful thinking on my part. No. Not even close.
God said she knows I pay attention to my dreams so she wanted me to dream what I did. He also said that she felt very bad for being so awful to me. She was so bad to me because of her own insecurities (typical narcissistic behavior). She thinks I “made a man” out of my husband.
This blew me away. Partly because my mother in-law never accepted any responsibility for anything she did to me, let alone apologized so I just assumed it’d be the same after her death. Also partly because this sort of thing happened with my ex husband’s mother as well. We got along great until my ex & I moved in with his parents. Then when I divorced him, naturally she was on his side & I became the scourge of the earth. But after she passed in 2010, suddenly she started appearing in my dreams on a pretty regular basis. She once said she understood why I wanted a divorce & another time, said she was proud of me for helping people with my writing. In my dreams even if she doesn’t speak, she’s always smiling at me & seems proud of me.
My point in sharing all of this is to show you just how important dreams can be. They truly are worth paying attention to! You can learn a great deal about yourself through your dreams, since they are almost always about the dreamer. They can reveal areas in which you need healing or need to change your thinking or behavior. Or, they can be Heaven sent messages like my dreams about my mothers in-law. In any case, dreams are very important!!
There also will be plenty of dreams you don’t remember or only remember snippets of. That can be frustrating when you’re trying to understand your dreams, I know, but even those have a purpose. I asked God about them at one point because I have so many like that. He said the brain constantly processes information- good, bad or indifferent. Those dreams you don’t remember are simply that, your brain processing things. They aren’t important.
If you want to start learning from your dreams, then start by praying. Ask God to help you to understand them better & to remember the important ones. Keep a written record of them too, as seeing them all together with the dates of them can help reveal a lot about your life. It’s also a good idea to use a dream dictionary. I use one online, http://www.DreamMoods.com I write down all the things about my dream I can remember, then look up what those things mean on the website. I write down what the site says about each thing, then read over the entire thing. If I don’t understand, I ask God to help me figure it out, which He does. Sometimes I don’t even make it that far- as soon as I wake up, He tells me what the dream meant, but that doesn’t happen very often. In any case though, dreams can be utterly fascinating & helpful, so please consider paying more attention to yours!