Ever since I became a Christian in 1996, I’ve heard preaching about not allowing your emotions to rule you. Keep them in check & don’t let them run your life!
Basically, this made me feel bad when I would feel hurt or angry & couldn’t control how I felt. I thought something must be wrong with me for not having a better grip on my feelings.
The truth though is everyone needs to have a healthy, balanced perspective on emotions.
Emotions are given to us by God to let us know when things are good or bad. When something is good, you feel happy, content or pleased. If something makes you sad or angry, you know this thing isn’t good. Emotions are a good monitor in that respect.
Emotions can teach you a lot about yourself. Where your boundaries lie, what you enjoy or don’t enjoy & who you are the closest to. Not allowing yourself to feel such things can turn you into a shell of a human being, & that is not what God wants for you.
Sometimes emotions can be irrational too. There may be times that you’d rather lay on the sofa watching TV than go to work, even when you enjoy your job, & you have no idea why you feel this way. In times like this you know it’s best to ignore those emotions & go to work.
When you are healing from trauma or abuse, however, you need to be sure not to ignore your feelings. If you suddenly feel anxious, angry or depressed, you need to know why you feel that way. Then you will be able to feel the emotion fully, process it & release it. Ignoring your feelings if you’re healing only serves to drag out the healing process & make you more miserable. I know, facing past trauma is hard, but it is easier than constantly trying to stuff it down inside of you.
I firmly believe that while you can’t listen to your emotions blindly, you do need to listen to them often & use wisdom on how to deal with them. Know sometimes you can ignore them, but mostly, you should pay attention to them & respect them. Don’t judge your feelings either. They aren’t good or evil- feelings simply are.