Recently, I had a rough evening. I had a nasty flashback to start with. It was something I remembered, but I hadn’t thought of in a while. A few hours later, I went to bed & had nasty nightmares.
As miserable as this experience was, it had a purpose.
The experience in the flashback & the nightmares showed me that there is a VERY common thread in my life with those who have abused or at the least mistreated me. The abusers may have done different things to me, but they all believed that I was supposed to be their personal punching bag, obey their wishes at any personal cost to me, sacrifice anything for any whim of theirs, & take any abuse they dished out with a smile. And, anyone I told their behavior was unacceptable acted the same way- as if I had a problem for being upset about their actions.
When this occurred to me the morning after the whole experience, something clicked in me. No normal human acts this way! While I already realized it, it really hit home to me just how messed up abusers are to think such things & act this way towards those they abuse. How can anyone think that it’s OK to abuse & there is something wrong with victims for calling an abuser out on it?!
My point is that although you probably know this already, I wanted to remind you, Dear Reader, that NO ONE has the right abuse you! You have every right to speak out, to set & enforce healthy boundaries, to stop the abuse, & to call out your abuser! You do NOT have to tolerate abuse just because some sick person thinks you do. You have rights! Never listen to an abuser who thinks you should tolerate anything they dish out with a smile. They are WRONG! No one has to do that. No one. You deserve better than to be abused! Never doubt that! If you don’t believe me, remember, God thinks so to. He loved you enough to send His only Son to die for you, so you could become His child. Do you really think He would be OK with you being abused after that?