As I mentioned recently, my birthday just passed. It’s not a happy day for me. I’ve had many miserable birthdays. More bad than good. Thinking about many of them still makes me cringe. As a result, I dread the day every year. For years off & on, I tried to make good birthday memories but nothing helped me shake the yukky feelings attached to my birthday.
One of my lovely readers knows how I feel, & told me about something I could do. I read about it & found it fascinating.
Queen Elizabeth & I share the same birthday (well, different years..). Cool, but not the fascinating part. The fascinating part is there is a royal custom regarding birthdays. The queen’s birthday isn’t celebrated publicly on April 21st, but on the second Saturday in June.
My reader’s suggestion was to follow the Queen’s example with a little change. Celebrate my birthday on a different day with a chosen few people only, thus making my birthday something to look forward to for a change.
The reason I’m sharing this, Dear Reader, is because so many adult children of narcissistic parents or those who were married to narcissists, share my experiences- many lousy birthdays, thanks to the narcissists in their life, have made them bitter about their own birthdays. Hopefully those of you on this same boat will give the Queen’s idea a try.
Besides, it’s simply not fair! Narcissists have stolen so very much from us, & that’s just wrong. They have taken way too much. It’s only right we take back something from them, anything.
Thinking about it now, I’m considering creating my new birthday in the fall. It’s my favorite time of year- the weather is beautiful, the leaves are so colorful & the days are short as I like. I’ve never been overly fond of the spring, so changing my birthday celebration to autumn sounds like a lovely idea.
What about you Dear Reader? When would you like your new birthday celebration to be?