Since many children of narcissistic parents are introverted, I thought I would share this for you, my fellow introverts.
I’ve seen a great deal lately about introverts & how people try to get us out of our shell. Teachers tell parents that although their child is a good student, she doesn’t participate enough. Friends say you “need to get out more” or suggest ways you can incorporate more people into your daily life. Things like this can leave the introvert feeling bad about herself, feeling flawed because she prefers to read over attending big parties. This is so wrong!
People often fail to realize is being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re broken. Introversion isn’t a disease in need of a cure or a horrible flaw in need of improvement. Introversion is simply a personality trait, like having a good sense of humor.
Introverts don’t hate people. Introverts hate spending a great deal of time around people. There is a difference.
While extroverts get energy by being around people, introverts get energy by being alone. The way an extroverts feel after attending a party is how an introvert can feel after spending an afternoon alone, lost in a good book. Same results, just different means of getting those results. One is no better or worse than the other, simply different.
If you’re an introvert, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! I know it can be hard, but ignore those who try to make you feel “wrong” or “broken” because you’d rather spend your afternoon with a book than surrounded by people. If you have friends who make you feel that way, then maybe it’s time to find new friends. People who don’t judge or criticize you, try to change you & accept you the way you are are a true blessing. I have been blessed with people like this in my life. My best friend & I are extremely compatible, because when we hang out, neither of us gets offended if the other says, “I need some introvert time.. mind if we call it a day?” We understand each other’s introverted nature, & although we always have fun together, we also know sometimes alone time is our best friend. If you’re an introvert, you need at least one friend like this!
Dear Reader, I hope you embrace your introverted nature rather than hate it. There is no shame in being an introvert whatsoever. Enjoy it! Introverts unite! (in small groups.. for very limited periods of time..lol)