When an abuse victim isn’t believed, often times the person who doesn’t believe the victim says it’s because the abuser is too nice or too good of a person. No one so kind could do the terrible things the victim says they did! The victim must have misunderstood, is exaggerating or flat out lying!
What the non believing people fail to realize is that this is typical of abusive people, narcissists in particular. Abusers have two sides- the side they show the public & the side they show to those closest to them, their victims. Behaving in such a manner guarantees the victim won’t be believed if she tells others about what the abuser does. People will believe the charade of a good person because abusers are notoriously good actors. Some are even able to convince mental health professionals they aren’t abusive, & that the victim is lying.
If someone you know tells you that someone else you know is abusing them but you don’t believe it, please keep this in mind. Don’t brush someone off because the person they accuse of abuse is “too nice” to do such things. If you don’t live with that person, you don’t know the real person!