Have you ever stopped & thought about how strong you are?
Being raised by at least one narcissistic parent, you are naturally all too aware of your faults (real ones & the imaginary ones your parent put on you). Even if you haven’t had contact with that parent & have healed, chances are you’re still very aware of every flaw you have, yet very unaware of the good things about you. One of those good things that all victims share is great strength.
Think about it. Narcissistic abuse is the psychological equivalent of walking through a minefield. You don’t know where to turn that is safe. Sometimes you’re going to step on a land mine (incite narcissistic rage by some imaginary slight) & it’s going to devastate you. Narcissistic rage is as unavoidable when dealing with a narcissistic personality as stepping on a land mine in a minefield.
Yet, in spite of all of the abuse & the gaslighting, you survived. Wounded, like a person who has escaped a minefield, but still, you survived. That is pretty darned impressive! And, you ended the cycle!! YAY YOU!! You aren’t a narcissist! So many children with narcissistic parents turn into narcissists, but you didn’t! That is awesome!!
Here you are, being good to other people, loving your kids (furry or human), & living life on your own terms. You aren’t living to please your narcissistic parent, which shows you have great courage. It takes a lot of courage to break away from that, since they make their children’s lives so miserable when they are disappointed. Sure, you still have some issues from childhood, who doesn’t? Maybe you even have PTSD or C-PTSD. But, you didn’t commit suicide like many have. You’re still here & doing pretty well for yourself. And, you’ve done it all on your own.
You, Dear Reader, are incredibly strong. You should be very proud of yourself!