I Have Some Bad News

My mother has passed away.  It looks like her heart, but no autopsy will be performed.  She was 80 on the 16th, had heart problems & her cousin said she had complained her chest was hurting.

We’re also not positive when she passed, but likely it was on her birthday or early in the morning after.  Reason being, she spoke to her cousin daily.  For 3 days after her birthday, this cousin couldn’t reach her.  Living out of state, she contacted the local police for a welfare check.  They found her dead in her chair.

It’s a terribly sad scenario.  Dying alone & remaining that way for some time.  But thankfully it most likely happened very quickly & probably she didn’t suffer.  That is some positive at least.

I’m also so blessed… after what happened when my father was dying 18 months ago, I dreaded dealing with family.  (If you don’t remember, many relatives sent me abusive messages telling me how awful I was for not going to say good bye.  It happened daily & sometimes multiple times a day during his final 20 days in the hospital & periodically prior to that for his final few months.  Not a nice time!)  My cousin volunteered to take care of my father’s side of the family & keep them away from me.  My mother’s cousin who called the police notified her side of the family.  Thankfully the daunting task of dealing with these people has been taken care of & I’m no worse for wear.  🙂

Apparently, much to my surprise, my mother left this situation in my hands.  I’ve never dealt with anything like this & have no idea what I’m doing.  I am pretty overwhelmed to say the least.  If you’d be kind enough, I’d appreciate some prayers to help me get through this situation.  Thank you!  xoxo


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15 responses to “I Have Some Bad News

  1. I am so sorry for your loss even though I know you were estranged for good reason….. sending you love and prayers. ❤

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  2. Deb

    Sending prayers. I know the double edged sword this is. I am sorry for your loss. I too, know the immense challanges of estrangement from family. God Bless You

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  3. ibikenyc

    I am so sorry for you loss.

    I am thinking of and praying for you ❤

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  4. Brandy Martin

    Prayers sent your way.

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  5. So sorry for your loss. Try to remember to take care of yourself during this time.

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  6. My heart and prayers are with you now. Dear Cynthia, please remember that you are so loved. ((HUGS)) and tears.

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  7. I am so sorry to hear about the death of your mother and can only imagine the conflicts you might be facing. I know that you were prayerful in your decision to go no contact. I know from following you that it was absolutely what God wanted you to do. I am reminded of an episode of Shameless where Fiona is charged with burying her selfish mother, and she is flippant with the undertaker. It’s very funny, and I’m adding a link to the clip below just to add some brevity. In brave moments, I like to think I might behave like her. But I know the emotions are much more complex. I still haven’t had the courage to go no contact. I know “no contact” just feeds more supply if not done properly.

    Here’s the link. Again, I’m just mentioning it here in hopes it gives you a moment of humor: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lp3rEcIhQvw

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    • Thank you so much, Doug. You’re very kind.

      I’ll check out the link later.. I could use a laugh right now.

      Don’t worry or pressure yourself. No contact is a big decision & a lot is involved with it. You’ll know when the time is right, & be able to follow through with it in an appropriate way. ❤

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