A lovely lady in my Facebook group by the name of Ella Jane Gamberi shared some extremely wise & insightful thoughts on the topic of honoring one’s parents recently. Since so many of us with narcissistic parents have been subjected to judgmental people criticizing us for not honoring our parents, I believe her words may help others as they helped me. I’m very happy to say that Ella allowed me to share her insight.
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Hi. This is my first post here. I wanted to let you all know that I have studied some on this honouring abusive parents thing. Proverbs says “honour is not fitting for a fool”. If your parent is also an atheist which mine were they qualify for fools as a fool says in his heart there is no God. Look up some other characteristics of fools and you might be surprised who qualifies. God is not mocked. Nobody who treats the weak and lowly like trash gets away with it. In my opinion children, new mothers and many others qualify as vulnerable. God both loves and keeps those who cry out to Him against injustice. Remember the widow and the judge! God bless.
How much sense does this make?!
I’m embarrassed to admit I never connected the passage about honor not being fitting for a fool in relation to honoring one’s parents. Thank God this lovely lady did though! Isn’t this helpful?!
Dear Reader, if your parents are like the majority of narcissists & don’t believe in God, He considers them fools & unworthy of honor. Personally, I don’t think He means we can treat our parents any old way. As children of God, we are to glorify Him & part of that is being good to people. That being said though, we can rest easy knowing that having boundaries with our parents, not blindly bending to their will & yes, even going no contact aren’t signs we are being dishonorable to our parents, hypocrites or “bad Christians”. There is nothing wrong with any of the above!