One thing I wondered about narcissists & their flying monkeys for a long time was why do they act the way they do? I know there’s no “one size fits all” answer to that question of course, but there had to be something that explained why these people all act so similarly. I’ve met people with narcissistic parents or exes who live in different countries, are of different financial backgrounds, have different religious beliefs (or none at all) & are of different races, yet in spite of all the differences, there are so many similarities. I found that utterly baffling. I believed it must be a sign narcissism is demonic in nature, but I wasn’t sure exactly how.
Then one day in October, 2017 when my father was dying, God showed me something very interesting. As I’ve shared before, at the time of his death, I hadn’t spoken to my parents in some time. My family couldn’t handle me continuing to remain no contact as my father was dying, & they harassed me via email, text, social media messages & telephone daily in an attempt to bully me into seeing him in the hospital. They were exceptionally cruel & devoted flying monkeys. One day shortly before he died, the situation got to me. I was angry. I was also crying & talking to God about everything that was going on. One thing I said was, “Why do things have to be like this? Why is my family so cruel?” He said, “Some people have made some very bad decisions.” Then, He showed me one reason for some of the actions of narcissists & their flying monkeys.
God showed me a vision of a person standing directly centered in front of a revolving door much like this one…
Inside that tube where the door stands was God on one side, & on the exact opposite side, Satan. Every decision the person made would open the door towards one a bit more, while simultaneously closing the door to the other a bit more. Eventually, either God was completely exposed while Satan was closed off & unable to reach the person, or Satan was free while God was closed off.
The latter is what happens when a person makes very bad decisions, which narcissists do daily & have done for a long time. They continually choose selfish, abusive, entitled, narcissistic behavior over Godly behavior. That means that they close the door to God more & more with each bad choice, & they open that door to Satan, giving him more access to their lives than God has. That makes it easy for them to do the terrible things they do – Satan helps them do such things. He deludes them into thinking their behavior is absolutely fine, even justified in many cases. Such thinking eventually can drown out the voice of the Holy Spirit. Maybe you have heard the term a seared conscience? I believe this is what happens when a person ignores the Holy Spirit & normal guilty feelings every human feels. They ignore these things so much, that nothing or almost nothing they do can make them feel badly. It’s as if their conscience becomes atrophied from lack of use.
There is another important point of all of this that you need to know. By sharing all of this, I’m not saying that narcissists have no control over their actions, or “the devil made them do it” so they had no choice in their behavior. They do still have a choice. Clearly, even under an evil influence, they still know right from wrong. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t work so hard to hide their actions from people they want to impress. If they have the ability to choose to hide their actions from certain people, they have the ability to choose to do what’s right. Unfortunately, I think doing bad things is just easier for them, & that gets them what they want, so that is why they opt not to do what’s right in spite of knowing better.