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I appreciate that you referred to the C-PTSD flashbacks as “anxiety”. I also follow another YouTuber who offers a variety of exercises to identify the emotions and then take “Action Steps” based on the emotions being presented. The goal of all the “Action Steps” is to do things that you think will keep you safe. Your brief summary where you essentially say, “is this emotion real or a flashback” to be much more simple and to the point.
My “takeaway” from this is to let the Anxiety come up either way and then ask myself if there are real-life, adult action steps that I can take to relieve this anxiety. If there aren’t, then accept that it’s an emotional flashback, assure myself I am safe now, and go about my routine
I really believe you have to keep things as simple as possible, especially when it comes to dealing with the big stuff like flashbacks. It’s hard enough to deal with some things, so the less steps to healing the better.
Good takeaway! That’s what I was aiming for!
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Glad you liked it! So much “self-help” offers so many steps, and if you don’t do them all perfectly, then the “blame” is on you. When in reality, we aren’t the problem.
Got that right! It’s ridiculous! Healing is hard enough.. it requires as much simplicity as possible & no blame.
You reminded me. I saw this thing a while back that’s supposed to help people calm from panic attacks. It was a list of things to do that engage each of your senses. Each sense had several things to do. I thought there is NO way on God’s green earth I could do this! How could you remember all those things in the midst of a panic attack?! Remembering to breathe is hard enough during a panic attack, let alone doing several things that engage each sense that is suddenly on high alert. Just made no sense to me at all.
I will admit Richard Grannon is the YouTuber I was referencing. He recommends an exercise that you do 5 times a day where you touch your fingers. He recommended setting alarms on your phone to do them. But I found the alarms so startling, and a reminder of “one more” thing I ‘NEEDED” to do, I just had to give up.
Nothing against him at all, but I’m glad you recognized that you felt that way & gave it up. Healing is so individual! We have to do what helps, not what is a burden. Some folks might do well with that, but if you aren’t one of them, you shouldn’t do it.
I think the the important thing is to know that we are okay. It’s not us. The world is just weird. And people are mean. There are no “Steps” to follow that will make us safe.
That’s the truth!
For what’s worth, this morning I woke with so much anxiety. I asked myself, is this anxiety for current, adult Doug?
Or is it an emotional flashback?
I realized it was a combination of both.
I had watched episode 1 of “I Know This Much is True” before going to bed and realized my fear was having cancer like the mother in the show. I did not want to be a cancer victim like the mother in the show. If that happened to me, predatory family members would swoop in, pretend to care, pretend to change my diapers, etc. But really, they would be going through all my things looking for anything of value. I know this now. I did not a few years ago.
Anyway, I sent a text to a trustworthy uncle who had gone through something similar with his mother. He called me back. I asked him questions, let him talk, and learned about the importance of the Will, Power of Attorneys, and especially Durable Power of Attorneys. Anyway, I have action steps for adult Doug that I want to take now. And, of course, I feel much better.
My point here is that you were right Cynthia in encouraging us to not ignore anxiety. A year ago, I would I have pushed this morning anxiety down and “powered through” my day.
That is wonderful you used your anxiety for your benefit! Smart move! You’re awesome for thinking to do that!
How are you feeling now?
I really enjoyed reading this. As someone who suffers from ptsd, i really appreciate the bringing of awareness to the illness!
Thank you so much! ❤
Please feel encouraged to check out my recent blog post regarding PTSD awareness day (today, June 27th) or just the overall PTSD awareness month of June! Thank you❤️
Very good article! I hope many people read it & benefit from it!
Thank you! please follow back too so i can look forward to seeing your future posts!
Thank you so much
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