God gives His children many gifts. One of the finest ones I’ve ever received is my best friend. Although since we met in 1988, truth be told, she’s more of a sister than a friend. She is one of those rare people who is absolutely beautiful, inside & out. She has taught me about what a best friend really should be just by being herself, & I thought I would share that with you.
Best friends should always help to strengthen your faith. People are often quick to say, “I’ll pray for you” but honestly, how many people who say that also help to remind them that God is so much bigger than their problems? As good as it is to have others pray for you, it’s also incredibly helpful to have someone encourage you to pray, to remind you what the Bible says regarding your situation & remind you of times in your past when God has came through for you.
Best friends should be encouraging. They shouldn’t just encourage your faith but your soul too. If you have doubts about your abilities & your best friend knows you have no valid reason to doubt, they should be your cheerleader.
Your relationship should be balanced. During trying times, it’s normal for a close relationship to be out of balance as one friend helps the other, but this shouldn’t be the norm for any relationship. Relationships should involve two people supporting each other, not one person constantly doing all of the work, constantly helping the other or one person not caring about what is happening in the other person’s life.
Best friends should know each other VERY well. My best friend knows me better than anyone else in the world with the exception of my husband. This means she not only knows my likes, dislikes, interests, morals & beliefs, but she knows how to relate to me well. I know her probably just as well. If we disagree about something, we can work it out easily because we know each other so well.
Best friends are real with each other. My best friend has seen me at my worst. I don’t mean just seeing me without makeup. I mean seeing me as I recovered from the carbon monoxide poisoning, after arguments with my parents & husband, after flashbacks, & going through very hard times like abuse at the hands of my parents. Not once did I ever feel I had to tell her I was fine. I always can tell her today was awful & this is why, knowing she wouldn’t judge me for being too negative. I also can count on her to tell me if I’m wrong about something. Thankfully, she is kind about it, but she will offer constructive criticism or correction if necessary.
Best friends should love each other God’s way. What I mean is that love isn’t superficial. It is deep, it only wants what is best for each other, it is courteous & full of respect.
Best friends shouldn’t shy away during the hard times. The night I got the death notification about my mother was an extremely terrible night. My first thought once I was at my mother’s home & starting to deal with the police was to call my best friend. Immediately she said she’d pray the moment we hung up & asked what else she could do. A few days later when my mother was buried, guess who was at my side? Even when one of my cousins screamed at me, she didn’t budge. It couldn’t have been easy for her to be there during these scenarios, especially at the cemetery, but she was there offering her unwavering support.
If your best friend isn’t like this, then it may be time to find one who is. God made people to be in relationships of all kinds, so why settle for less than the best He has to offer?