Healing after narcissistic abuse is messy. There is nothing easy about it! It’s not like walking on a nice, level, freshly paved sidewalk. It’s more like walking on a rocky, narrow path up a steep hill. Lots of ups & downs & struggles.
There are going to be times on your healing journey when you struggle & even fail. You’ll slip back into old, dysfunctional patterns. You’ll apologize for something that isn’t your fault or over explain yourself. You’ll feel guilty for setting boundaries & maybe even give up on those boundaries since it seems easier not to have them. You may even resume a relationship with the narcissist you had kicked out of your life.
Times like this are incredibly frustrating, but they also are incredibly NORMAL. Everyone has had setbacks like these as they heal. Yes, they’re awful but they happen. Narcissistic abuse is extremely damaging, so this happens to everyone.
Rather than beat yourself up for being stupid, a failure or whatever other terrible things you’re telling yourself, stop it right now. Beating yourself up does no good. Besides, didn’t the narcissist in your life do enough of that for you to last a lifetime? Why add to it?
Instead, try to relax. Fix the things you can. Reestablish those shaky or removed boundaries. Remind yourself that you owe no one any explanations & stop offering them. If you resumed a relationship with the narcissist in your life, then end it again & this time, stick to it. Block their phone numbers, emails, social media accounts. Avoid going places they go to as much as humanly possible.
Never forget that this was only a stumbling block on your healing path. Just because you may have fallen into a ditch doesn’t mean you have to stay there. Pick up where you left off. If you’re really struggling, ask God to help you. In fact, even if you aren’t struggling much, ask Him to help you! We all need His help to survive this incredibly difficult journey, & He is more than happy to help His children however possible.