Don’t Be Ashamed Of Having PTSD Or C-PTSD!

Years ago, I remember reading that a rather well known preacher talking about PTSD.  He made it sound like no true Christian can have this disorder or if you do, just “get rid of it” as if people have a choice to hold onto it or get rid of it.

While not many people will say those exact words, it does appear plenty of people share similar sentiments about PTSD & C-PTSD.  Many clearly think people with these disorders are weak for getting it in the first place, especially if they too have experienced a similar trauma but don’t have it.  What they fail to realize is that developing PTSD & C-PTSD isn’t a sign of weakness, contrary to what many people seem to think.  It is a sign of surviving something that easily could have destroyed you either mentally or physically or both. 

Other people think they are some made up disorders so people can wallow in the past or use them as an excuse to get out of doing things they don’t want to do, such as holding down a job.  They refuse to see that those of us with one of these disorders would love to be “normal” again.  We would love nothing more than not to think about the past traumas all of the time & be able to do normal things.

There are also those who believe having PTSD or C-PTSD means you lack faith in God.  If you simply trusted Him more or prayed more, you wouldn’t have this disorder, they say.  They have no clue nothing could be further from the truth!

Something people fail to realize is that PTSD & C-PTSD can happen to anyone.  They know no boundaries.  They affect people of all ethnicities, genders, religions, intelligence, financial standings… anyone can develop PTSD or C-PTSD.

Just because you have PTSD or C-PTSD but someone you know who has experienced similar trauma to yours doesn’t have it doesn’t mean there is something very wrong with you for getting it.  Every person is truly unique, right down to our fingerprints & DNA.  What affects one person strongly may not affect someone else as strongly simply due to differences in personality & how people process information.

Some people are also naturally more in touch with their logical, or left brain, than their emotional, right brain.  Those people are often a bit disconnected from their emotions simply due to how their personality is.  There are also those who have chosen to deal with pain by disconnecting from it.  Much like our logical friends, these folks don’t feel connected to their emotions.  This means these people naturally won’t be as deeply affected by trauma as those who are more in tune with their emotions will be affected.

There is also the fact that every single person has a mental breaking point.  In other words, everyone has a point in which their mind simply cannot take any more.  This is the point where PTSD can & often does develop.  That point varies from person to person, but there is no avoiding it.  It is much like bones.  Bones too have a breaking point & that varies from person to person too.  Sometimes, people’s bones break easily & other times, they don’t.  There is nothing wrong, weak or even ungodly about the ones whose bones break easily.  This is simply how they are.

If you have PTSD or C-PTSD then please know that you aren’t flawed, crazy, abnormal or anything else.  You are a normal person who has experienced some pretty abnormal things.  Both disorders are awful I know, but having them isn’t something of which you should be ashamed.  Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise!

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9 responses to “Don’t Be Ashamed Of Having PTSD Or C-PTSD!

  1. Cynthia, terrific post. Two comments. First, that minister in the first paragraph did a disservice to his congregation, full stop. Just think of all the veteran soldiers, rape victims, DV victims, unemployed people, et al who were in the audience and heard that BS. Jesus actually spent more time with the disenfranchised in the villages he visited – dare I say some had PTSD?

    Second, I have shared before the homeless mothers and families an agency (I volunteered with) helped were often suffering from PTSD. So, were the kids. Our social workers had to recognize this as they did their TIC (Trauma informed care). Think about that, the trauma of not being able to house your kids? Or, the trauma to the kids for not knowing where they will be or mortified that other kids would ostracize them. And, it got worse if they were homeless due to a DV situation.

    PTSD is very real and people did not need to be misinformed by a minister (or others) who is not knowledgeable about such matters. Keith

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  2. Just a theory based mostly on my experience and observations, but I think the difference has to do with the person susceptible to PTSD and C-PTSD has to do with the locus of control. It seems the empathetic person will take on more and more and think they can fix things on their own. Where the abusers will look to other people as competition, and in the case of a sensitive person – they view this person as “weak”. They will either speak negatively of this person, or find a way to use them as a resource – until that person has been depleted. Then they move onto the next victim. Dog eat dog world mentality. The person who doesn’t want to be a dog eater often collapses. Hopefully they stand back up. But often they don’t.

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    • I hadn’t thought of it that way but it makes sense. I had a friend who was exactly like the abuser you describe, who looks at sensitive people as weak. That is exactly how she treated me. Actually they.. I had 2 friends like that now that I think of it.

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      • My guess is the preacher in your post was of similar mind. Viewing his congregation as “weak” if they have problems, yet making his living off their donations.

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        • I think so too. He was very popular in the 90s. Not sure if he still is or not, but anyway he was quite wealthy. In all fairness, that could’ve been from outside investments over donations but I don’t know. I just know the conversation was horrid.

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