Family is supposed to be a safe haven, a place where although mistakes are made, everyone loves & supports each other. They encourage each other to learn & to grow. Sadly, this isn’t how families always work. Sometimes, families are abusive & cruel, destroying each other physically, emotionally, spiritually & financially. Some families are more interested in keeping up the appearance of being a loving family than actually working on being one. Sometimes, families also put their wants above the will of God for each other’s lives, & people in this position are the ones I want to address today.
God created families to love, teach, support & nurture each other. Sometimes though even families that do this don’t understand when one relative has a calling on their life that is out of the ordinary. Their intentions may be good, but they still try to discourage that relative from doing what they know God wants them to do. Then there are other families like mine. Their intentions were anything but good when they tried to shame me for writing about the topics I do. God showed me they did this to keep me from discussing topics that reminded them of their own pain or guilt for not helping me when I was being abused.
Being in such a position where people try so hard to discourage you from doing God’s will for your life can be so hard! It makes you doubt, wondering if you really did hear God correctly. It makes you feel embarrassed because people clearly think something is very wrong with you to be doing what you’re doing. You also can’t help but feel like a fool. But you know something? If you keep doing what you know to do, you won’t regret it, & I’ll prove it.
Jesus Himself left His earthly family to pursue His heavenly Father’s will. He said in Luke 2:49, “And He answered, “Why did you have to look for Me? Did you not know that I had to be in My Father’s house?” By stepping outside of his family’s expectations, Jesus was able to fulfill His divine purpose on earth.
God called Abraham to leave his family, his country, & his people to follow Him to a land that He would show him. By leaving the familiar land of his family & stepping out in faith, Abraham was able to establish a covenant with God & become the father of many nations.
Ruth, a Moabite woman, chose to leave her family & homeland to follow her mother-in-law Naomi to Israel. When she did this, she found favor with Boaz, a Godly man she later married. Ultimately, Ruth became the great-grandmother of King David & part of the lineage of Jesus Christ.
I also can tell you from personal experience that although writing the topics I write about can be extremely difficult & painful when it forces me to remember my own experiences, it has been an incredible blessing too. I have met some really wonderful people because of my work, several of which I’m happy to call friends. I have received many messages from people saying how helpful something I wrote has been for them. I also have the knowledge that I’m doing God’s will for my life, & that alone is incredibly rewarding,
If you want to do God’s will for your life & your family doesn’t approve, I encourage you to do it anyway! Prioritize your relationship with God above everything else. By spending time in prayer, Scripture reading, & worship, we can develop a deeper understanding of God’s will for our lives. As we grow closer to God, He will guide us in how to navigate our relationships & responsibilities to our families.
If He requires you to leave your family to do His will, you’re not alone! You will survive it. Even though it will hurt, the blessings well outweigh that hurt. He certainly has done this for many people in the Bible & even with me. He can do it for you too!
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