Years ago, I remember reading that a rather well known preacher talking about PTSD. He made it sound like no true Christian can have this disorder or if you do, just “get rid of it” as if people have a choice to hold onto it or get rid of it.
While not many people will say those exact words, it does appear plenty of people share similar sentiments about PTSD & C-PTSD. Many clearly think people with these disorders are weak for getting it in the first place, especially if they too have experienced a similar trauma but don’t have it. What they fail to realize is that developing PTSD & C-PTSD isn’t a sign of weakness, contrary to what many people seem to think. It is a sign of surviving something that easily could have destroyed you either mentally or physically or both.
Other people think they are some made up disorders so people can wallow in the past or use them as an excuse to get out of doing things they don’t want to do, such as holding down a job. They refuse to see that those of us with one of these disorders would love to be “normal” again. We would love nothing more than not to think about the past traumas all of the time & be able to do normal things.
There are also those who believe having PTSD or C-PTSD means you lack faith in God. If you simply trusted Him more or prayed more, you wouldn’t have this disorder, they say. They have no clue nothing could be further from the truth!
Something people fail to realize is that PTSD & C-PTSD can happen to anyone. They know no boundaries. They affect people of all ethnicities, genders, religions, intelligence, financial standings… anyone can develop PTSD or C-PTSD.
Just because you have PTSD or C-PTSD but someone you know who has experienced similar trauma to yours doesn’t have it doesn’t mean there is something very wrong with you for getting it. Every person is truly unique, right down to our fingerprints & DNA. What affects one person strongly may not affect someone else as strongly simply due to differences in personality & how people process information.
Some people are also naturally more in touch with their logical, or left brain, than their emotional, right brain. Those people are often a bit disconnected from their emotions simply due to how their personality is. There are also those who have chosen to deal with pain by disconnecting from it. Much like our logical friends, these folks don’t feel connected to their emotions. This means these people naturally won’t be as deeply affected by trauma as those who are more in tune with their emotions will be affected.
There is also the fact that every single person has a mental breaking point. In other words, everyone has a point in which their mind simply cannot take any more. This is the point where PTSD can & often does develop. That point varies from person to person, but there is no avoiding it. It is much like bones. Bones too have a breaking point & that varies from person to person too. Sometimes, people’s bones break easily & other times, they don’t. There is nothing wrong, weak or even ungodly about the ones whose bones break easily. This is simply how they are.
If you have PTSD or C-PTSD then please know that you aren’t flawed, crazy, abnormal or anything else. You are a normal person who has experienced some pretty abnormal things. Both disorders are awful I know, but having them isn’t something of which you should be ashamed. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise!