One famous & exceptionally wise quote of Albert Einstein is “blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth.” This may be my favorite of all of his words of wisdom.
Having experienced narcissistic abuse, I have seen this first hand with those who blindly believe narcissists. They may mistakenly fall for the narcissist’s act of however they wish to portray themselves. Or, sadly the more common scenario is people may see the real truth about the narcissist yet choose to believe the narcissist’s lies because they fit into their agenda. Rather than admit the truth, that someone they love is an abusive person, it is more palatable to them to go along with the lies. Whether the person in question is genuinely fooled by a narcissist or willingly fooled, many of these people have no interest in truth.
There are also those who behave this way with other authority figures, such as political figures, activists for a specific cause or someone else in the limelight such as a famous athlete, author, actor or musician. This is disturbing because those in public positions possess great power over a great many people. It seems many people assume because someone is well known, they are very wise. Sadly, they are mistaken. Fame does not bring with it great wisdom in any area, let alone all areas!
My reason for sharing this today is that I want to encourage those of you who follow my work to remember the wisdom of this quote by Einstein.
Just because someone like me writes about narcissistic abuse doesn’t mean that person knows everything about that topic. I include myself in this, by the way. Narcissistic Personality Disorder & the abuse narcissists inflict on their victims are very in depth topics with a great many layers to them. It seems that there is always something new to learn about them. I honestly don’t believe it is possible to know everything about narcissists & narcissistic abuse. In my own experience, there have been times when I thought this has to be it.. I must know everything that can be known about these issues. There couldn’t possibly be more to them. Yet, I always found out that I was wrong & there was much more!
Also don’t forget that no one is perfect! No matter how much someone knows on any topic, there is still the possibility that they will make mistakes in sharing what they know simply because they are human. Human beings aren’t perfect, so no matter how hard they try to be perfect, perfection isn’t possible.
If you follow someone who shares a lot of information on a specific topic, such as I share about narcissism, please do NOT blindly believe that person is right about everything! Weigh the information they share for yourself. Pray about it. Study the topic for yourself. Consider your own experiences with that topic. Come to your own conclusions & reach the truth for yourself.
Also, if you follow some public figure, consider the other people who follow them & how the public figure interacts with them. If that figure encourages other people to have their own perspectives & opinions, this is a good sign. If that figure discourages such things & even encourages other followers to be loyal to them to the point of mistreating those who disagree with the figure’s views, this is a sign this person is more interested in a following than the truth. I once followed an author whose writing I enjoyed, but quickly realized her followers acted as if they were in a cult. Only total agreement with her was acceptable. Those who disagreed were shamed & treated as outcasts. Anyone who truly wants to help other people is open to learning new information & hearing differing views from their own.
Please just remember that no one has all the answers. The goal of those who try to help others should be sharing the truth & helping others, not gaining blindly loyal followers.