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I’ve been toying with the idea of creating some mini books for a while now. Each book being much shorter than the average, & focusing only on one topic at a time. I thought it could be a good idea since narcissism is a pretty overwhelming topic. These books help readers by not inundating them with too much information per book which makes them easier to read & absorb the subject matter. Plus, being shorter books, people can get exactly the information they want at a cheaper price than buying a larger book.
Mini books also are much easier for me to write. It’s almost six years to the day after I survived carbon monoxide poisoning & my brain is still not in a really happy place. I can write obviously, but it’s a much greater struggle now than it once was. I think it’s time to make my life easier in general, including with writing.
I just published the first three, & they’re available at this link on my website: https://cynthiabaileyrug.com/home/books-for-sale/mini-books/
Currently, all are available in only ebook format, but I am considering making them available in print as well. It’s so hard to know what to do like this anymore! People have very definite feelings of print vs ebook format, & those who prefer one over the other change like the wind!
Anyway I hope you like the new ebooks. More will be coming in the future. As I mentioned recently, I’ll be getting rid of my free ebooks by the end of this month. I plan to add more information to them & charge a little for them. Not much, since they’ll still be rather short little ebooks.
Thank you to everyone for being supportive & wonderful! May God bless you! 💖💖
I just got a email from one of the publishers I use. They will be making some changes that will affect my free ebooks, which has gotten me to do some thinking….
I’ve been considering retiring all of them & republishing with the other publisher I use to gain more exposure. Due to the changes, I plan to do just this.
Since I need to redo the ebooks anyway, I’m going to add more to them & they’ll no longer be free. Probably I’ll only ask a little for them, like maybe $.99 since I don’t plan to add a lot to them.
While these books won’t be free, my website, this blog, my YouTube channel & podcasts all still will be. There is plenty of information on these sources. While I’m glad to share all of the information I can, I need some more balance. I need to start charging for some of it. Helping people is great & I love it, but it also doesn’t pay the bills either!
I’ll retire my free ebooks by January 31, 2021. In the meantime, you can find them at this link:
You can find all of the other links I’ve mentioned on my website at this link:
Thank you for understanding! God bless you!
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I’ve decided to take a hiatus from writing books for a while. Dealing with my mother’s estate is a lot of work, & with my mental & physical limitations, also excessively stressful. Writing is a lot of work, so I don’t feel I can write & deal with that at the same time. Or, if I could, I doubt I’d do either all that well. So, writing books is going on the back burner for a bit.
I’m still going to keep up with this blog & my YouTube channel though.
Since I have some really wonderful readers, I know you’ll understand & I thank you so much for that understanding. xoxo
I recently had an idea. I am going to create a series of small books that focus on only one facet of narcissism & narcissistic abuse at a time. Each book will be maybe 1/4 the size of my regular book & naturally much cheaper. I think this is a unique way to get information out there & hopefully it will help raise awareness too.
I’ll be releasing a few in the near future, I’m thinking maybe 3 or so, & I’ll post about it when that happens. I don’t want to release a series that contains only one book, yanno?
When the books are available, they will be available on my website at:
And also at my ebook publisher’s website at:
I have published my most recent book! It’s called, “When Love Hurts: Loving A Narcissist”. This one is about being romantically involved with a narcissist. It teaches the reader how to determine if his or her partner is a narcissist, about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the best ways to cope with a narcissistic partner, how to help your children & more. I pray it will bless everyone who reads it.
Want to know something interesting? This book came to be because of a dream I had last spring. Strange, huh? Three ideas came to me in that one dream- a book about covert narcissists (which I wrote last year), another about narcissistic in-laws (I got a start on it & I think it will be my next book to publish) & this one about being romantically involved with narcissists. It was one more confirmation to me that dreams are important- we need to pay attention to them! You never know what God may show you in your dreams!
If you’re interested in this book, it is available in both print & ebook versions on my website at: www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com
I’ve noticed an interesting trend with this blog. When I write about my mistakes, failures or struggles, my blog gains more followers & views. My recent post about a bad C-PTSD day gained me quite a few more followers & a lot of views.
I believe this is because people are tired of people who claim they’ve been completely healed from their past, saying all you have to do is pray & believe, & God will deliver you completely from your past. People who are completely delivered from their pain are in the minority, yet they are the ones most in the public eye, it seems.
The problem with this is it makes people feel like failures. It sure did me. I felt like I must not have enough faith or I was praying wrong. Maybe because my experiences weren’t as bad as some other folks’ God wasn’t going to set me free- maybe He thought I was over reacting & needed to realize that.
Then one night while watching TV a few years ago, I saw Josh McDowell doing an interview on TBN’s show, “Praise The Lord.” As a child, he was sexually abused. His story was heartbreaking, but it gave me hope at the same time. Why? Because he admitted that as a grown man in his 50’s or maybe 60’s (my guess.. not sure) he still had issues stemming from that abuse. He said when people touch his shoulder in a certain way, he can’t handle it, because it reminds him of his abuser.
Realizing that this wise, caring, good man of God still had issues from childhood abuse so many years later released the feeling of shame I had. He’s obviously no failure, yet God didn’t wave that magic wand & set him free of all symptoms of the abuse. Maybe, just maybe, that means I’m not a failure either!
Two Scriptures also came into my mind in a new way. Psalm 23:4, “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” & Philippians 1:6, “Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:” I realized that God is truly there with me during all the bad times. Not only the times that I’ve lost a loved one or had a fight with a friend- all of the bad times. He is with me during flashbacks, panic attacks & depressive episodes. He is with me during all of those valley of the shadow of death times, not just some. Also, I realized you learn a lot more going through something than you do if you’re just delivered from it. The things I learn by going through are the things that I’ve been able to share in this blog, & in my books, too, & I believe people are being helped by these things. I’ve received plenty of messages to prove it.
Also, He is the one who showed me I needed healing. He started me on the healing path by gently showing me what was wrong with me & how to heal. So, since God started that “good work,” it seems logical to me, judging by Philippians 1:6, that He will continue working on healing me until Jesus comes back. This tells me there is nothing wrong with continuing to have issues for years after the fact. It’s normal!
These revelations gave me a new heart for how I write. Rather than constantly trying to encourage or teach readers what I have learned, I felt it would be a good idea to share my mistakes & struggles, too, to let my readers know that they aren’t alone. Everyone who has been through narcissistic abuse struggles to some degree. It’s ok! God is with them & helping them to heal.
So, Dear Reader, this is my promise to you- to be real, not only encouraging or educational. I’ll also let you know that I understand your struggles, because I struggle too, every single day. And, there is nothing wrong with you or your faith if God hasn’t miraculously delivered you. There are plenty of us in that same valley, so at least you aren’t alone!
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Lately, I’ve been thinking. (Scary huh?? lol)
I really would like to be able to expand the topics I write about. In all honesty, I’m tired of thinking so much about narcissism. Not that I want to quit writing about it entirely of course- I’d just like to talk about other things sometimes too. Be a bit more diverse
I’ve asked God to guide my writing. I ask God to show me what to write about (admittedly, probably not as often as I should..) which is where my blog & book subject matters come from. I’m going to be praying more about this topic though & would appreciate your prayers as well. I’m sure this urge to cover other topics isn’t only me- it’s God guiding me, probably preparing me for something else that is on its way.
I’ve started a little.. I’ve decided once my current book on recovering from narcissistic abuse is done, my next book project will be finishing the fiction book I started a few years ago. That book is maybe one third done..it’s time to finish it.
I also added some information about my experiences with carbon monoxide poisoning on my website. I’ve read a lot about it since I went through it last February, & what has struck me as truly sad is how many others who have been through it feel so isolated. People don’t seem to grasp just how serious & horrible it is to live with the disruptive symptoms. Writing about it is my attempt to help these people feel less alone, & less crazy. It also seems to have helped me a little to write out my experiences. (Bonus for me!) If you know someone who has suffered through carbon monoxide poisoning or you would care to read it, then click this link: http://cynthiabaileyrug.com/Carbon-Monoxide-Poisoning.php
Maybe I could write some about natural/herbal things. I know many people associate such things with casting spells & such, but I don’t. I believe God created herbs & plants with the properties they have for a reason & for our use. Why shouldn’t we benefit from them? I love herbal remedies & beauty recipes. I’d love to share what I know as well as learn from others.
If there are other topics you would like me to write about, I’m open to suggestions. I may not use them, it will depend on what I believe God wants me to do, so please don’t be offended if I don’t write about what you suggest. Anyway feel free to leave your suggestions in the comments of this post, or email me at: CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com I look forward to hearing from you! 🙂
I thought I would let you know what’s happening on the book front with me..
I now have two books I’m working on as I can. Unfortunately I’m still recovering from the carbon monoxide poisoning & the concussion that came with it, so writing is a challenge for me at the moment. (as if writing with C-PTSD isn’t enough of a challenge sometimes..lol) But, I’m trying to do a little as often as I can.
My one book is a fictional story I started over a year ago. I had it about halfway done when the external hard drive it was on crashed, taking my book with it. (Tears were shed, let me tell ya!) I decided to start working on it again, trying to recreate what was lost. It was inspired by the movie “Gaslight”- the movie from which the term gaslighting was coined. It takes place here in Maryland in the late 1800’s. It’s about a young widow who, after her mourning period, is caught up in a whirlwind romance with a man who in truth is only after her money. In order to have full access to it, he decides to drive his pretty young wife insane. He enlists the help of the young maid he’s having an affair with by telling her that his wife is really his sister, & he’s trying to help her show symptoms of her “illness” since she usually hides them from the doctor. She reluctantly agrees. As they are in the process of driving this woman insane, the wife & maid end up learning the truth, & decide to turn the tables on him, driving him insane instead.
My other book is going to be about recovering from narcissistic abuse. I’ve read so much about it, but there are plenty of things I haven’t read- I had to experience them & learn about them firsthand instead. For example, if you read about C-PTSD (very common with survivors or narcissistic abuse), it says many people experience nightmares. It’s often implied that the nightmares are about re-experiencing the traumatic events. I have learned that although that happens, it’s more rare, & nightmares are often things that are very upsetting yet symbolic of past trauma instead.
So anyway, these two are my current projects. I’m not sure when they’ll be released. Honestly, I don’t even feel comfortable setting a goal on that right now, not until I recover more. I’ll be sure to share when they will be released as the day comes closer though.
I was talking with my husband the other night about my work. I mentioned how other teachings on narcissism I read sometimes just don’t sit well with me even if I normally agree 100% with the author’s thoughts, & how I do my best to be sure what I say can be backed up in the Bible. One thing came to mind during this conversation that has been in the back of my mind for years now,since before I started writing, in fact..
I was watching Joyce Meyer preaching on TV one day. She said she’d been asking God for more & more people to reach & to be able to help. In response to her prayer, God told her that as many people as she can help, she can also hurt, so be careful. i thought this is incredibly wise!
So many people find someone whose teachings or preaching they like. They relate to much of what that person has to say, & they almost blindly follow anything that person says. This is NOT wise to do, however! Just because you identify with this person’s preaching or teaching, doesn’t mean this person is always right! All human beings make a mistake sometimes!
I do my level best in my blog, on my website, in my books & anything I write to make sure what I say can be verified by the Bible. Yet, even so, I’m human. I’m sure I’ve made mistakes sometimes & will continue to make mistakes. I just try my best to keep those mistakes to a minimum.
I have been blessed with some wonderful, caring, intelligent, empathetic fans who have sent me wonderful messages of support & thanking me for all I write. It’s amazing! I love those messages. But, I also want you to be sure that if you follow my writing, don’t do so blindly! If something doesn’t sound right to you, look it up. Pray about it. Like I said, I do my best not to make mistakes, but sometimes I just might make them anyway! & if you find something I’ve written is wrong, feel free to let me know your thoughts. I am very aware of what Joyce Meyer has said, that as many people as I can help, I can also hurt, & hurting people is the absolute last thing I want to do.
I was talking recently with a good friend of mine who is also the adult daughter of a narcissistic mother. She mentioned her birthday is coming up & how much she dreads the day. It’s a trigger of painful memories & her parents use the opportunity to try to make her feel guilty for not tolerating the abuse anymore.
Wonderful way to celebrate a birthday, huh? Sadly, she isn’t alone. Many adult children of narcissistic mothers go through something similar on their birthdays. A day that is supposed to be fun & celebrated turns into a day of misery instead.
My seventeenth birthday was among the most horrible days of my life. My mother destroyed the little gifts that my first boyfriend/now ex husband gave me because she hated him so much. She made me clean up the mess, & blamed me for “making” her do that. I later told my father about it, & he went to speak to my mother about her actions. She screamed at him for interferring, telling him to mind his own business, then when she was done with him, she screamed at me for tattling on her.
From that day on, I hated my birthday & tried to ignore it every single year.
Then in 2010, an old friend of mine sent me a message on facebook, & asked what plans I had for my birthday. I told him none. My father was sick & I thought I should be available in case he needed me. (I never told him about my seventeenth birthday fiasco.) He kinda chewed me out for not having plans & said I should do something for myself, even if it was just pick up my favorite lunch from somewhere. Something clicked inside me & I realized he was right. I thought about it & was angry that I let my mother steal so many of my birthdays. I decided no more, & instead created a birthday ritual that I’ve done each year since.
The weekend closest to my birthday, preferably on Sunday, hubby & I go to our favorite place- a tiny bar on the water in a nearby town that is often quiet on Sundays. I invite friends to come, & whoever can, joins us. It’s never more than maybe 5 people or so, so I can handle the company. I always say no gifts or cake but I get them anyway because I have awesome friends. lol We hang out, get something to eat & drink, listen to the jukebox (which is full of some really good old classic rock & 80’s music!) & watch the ducks & geese on the beach. It’s nothing fancy, but it’s a very nice time.
What about you?
Do you realize that by not celebrating your birthday or even dreading it, you’re giving your narcissistic mother the power to steal your joy? She doesn’t deserve that kind of power! She has had more than enough power that she has abused over you! You however, you deserve to have a fun, happy birthday celebrated with people who you love & who love you back. Or, if you want to spend it alone, you deserve to spend it doing whatever you like to do that makes you feel pampered. Or do both- party one day, alone time another. It’s YOUR birthday, & that means YOU should celebrate it however is the most fun for YOU!
I know you can’t forget the bad birthdays, nor should you. They are just a small part of what has made you the person you are today. However, they shouldn’t be allowed to be the reason you continue to have bad birthdays. You deserve so much better than that!
So what can you do to celebrate your birthday in a way that is fun for you? What new traditions can you create? What gift can you give yourself? Is there a special meal you don’t indulge in often because it is too fattening, unhealthy or something that you can indulge in on your birthday?
I encourage you to think about these things, & create a new, positive & fun birthday ritual for yourself! You are worth it!
Good morning, Dear Readers!
I just wanted to remind everyone about the book I’m working on. It will be available for free in ebook format. I’m thinking of entitling it, “Broken But Still Beautiful” or something like that. The topic is how God helps people who have been abused to heal. I want to encourage people that no matter what they have survived, God still has a purpose for them, & wants to help love them through their pain.
No matter what stage of healing you are in, I want your story. Even if you are still being abused, your story can be encouraging to someone, because it will show others that God is always there, even during the darkest times.
I know sharing details of abuse is painful. When I wrote my autobiography, “Emerging From The Chrysalis“, it was among the most painful experiences of my life. However, I felt it was a necessary thing to do. This book also, I feel is necessary. I also want to assure your annonymity by encouraging you to use fake names when you share your story. No one needs to know this is your story- just knowing someone has survived something painful with God’s help will encourage others.
Please pray about sharing your story for inclusion in this book. If you want to see more details, check out this link: Making A Difference
Or, you can email me at CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com
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