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When a person faces serious health problems, they change & not only physically. Their personalities change, too. That is normal. Sometimes the personality changes can be very bad.
A dear friend of mine lost her husband some time ago after caring for him for several years. Not long before he died, she told me some very disturbing things about his behavior. This once good, kind, loving man was suddenly exhibiting many narcissistic traits. In particular, he didn’t want his wife to be with other people, including their children. It was bizarre since narcissism doesn’t suddenly show up, like when you catch a cold. The more we talked about things, the more I thought of something…
After I survived Carbon Monoxide Poisoning, the hospital gave me no information & even said my elevated carbon monoxide levels “weren’t so bad.” They also said I had no brain injury in spite of showing many signs of a concussion from hitting my head when I passed out. The hospital said I could return to work two days later, but by that time, I still felt just as miserable as I did when I left the hospital. I was lost, so I started researching my condition. I also joined a traumatic brain injury group on Facebook. I noticed immediately most people in the group showed a LOT of narcissistic tendencies & were very insecure. I left the group quickly, but I realized something. I was starting to behave much as they were! I wanted my husband to be with me non stop & was very annoyed he wasn’t. I knew he had demanding, elderly parents with health problems, plus a full time job which all left him exhausted much of the time, but even so, I was annoyed he didn’t spend more time with me. Realizing how selfish I was behaving was a real wakeup call!
I told my friend about my experiences plus what I witnessed in that group & in time, we realized what happened with her husband was much like what happened to me.
The reason I’m sharing this is so many people are affected by serious health concerns either in themselves or in those they love. Whether you are the person with the condition or someone you love is, it’s vital to understand that serious health problems can change someone’s personality drastically. The condition doesn’t even need to be something that affects one’s brain directly like Alzheimer’s, stroke or traumatic brain injury for this to happen.
When you become seriously sick or injured, you become scared. Even if you’re getting the best of care & have a great prognosis, health problems are terrifying.
Add in that you can’t do things you once took for granted & are forced to rely on other people for help. That too can make you feel afraid, especially for the person who has always been self reliant, & is a serious blow to the self esteem.
Having to rely on other people also can make you feel like a burden, which unsurprisingly is terrible for one’s self esteem.
Feeling like a burden can make you feel that you need to put your best face forward & not show others just how miserable you feel or how much you’re struggling. There is a very difficult balance in this situation. If you act as if your symptoms aren’t as bad as they are, or not happening at all, people often think you’re faking the health crisis. But, if you are honest about it, people often think you’re exaggerating your symptoms, feeling sorry for yourself or looking for attention.
Feeling insecure & afraid naturally change a person. Many people get angry. Many others talk about their illness non stop in an effort to educate people, which often alienates them because people get tired of hearing about this topic. Most people though seem to become insecure, some even to the point of displaying narcissistic tendencies.
If you are the person who is ill & behaving this way, please work on healing! You are only hurting yourself & those around you! I know it’s hard but you can change! Watch your behavior, & change it accordingly. Apologize when you mistreat someone or have unfair expectations on them. Stop expecting people to meet your needs & focus on God to do that.
If you are the person in a relationship with someone who is behaving this way, remember, you can’t change their behavior. They have to change themselves. But, you aren’t helpless. You need to have good boundaries in place & enforce them. Talk to this person & explains that their behavior hurts you. Non-narcissistic people will respond to that! I know it seems hard to believe if you’ve dealt with a narcissist, but it’s true. Remind yourself that their behavior isn’t personal. It’s their illness making them act this way rather than something you are doing wrong.
Whichever position you are in, remember to stay close to God. Nurture that relationship. That is what will help you more than anything else!
When your average person experiences something that could be drastically life altering or even life ending, they are shaken up badly by the entire experience. Your average person may use the terrifying ordeal as a motivation to make positive changes in their life, such as working less hours or spending more time with their loved ones. They look at life differently. They become more appreciative of people & tell them how much they are appreciated.
This doesn’t happen with narcissists.
Narcissists think so differently than mentally healthy people, it makes sense that they also won’t respond in a normal way to such events.
A narcissist diagnosed with a deadly disease, for example, may complain a lot about it. They may feel sorry for themselves a great deal. They will look for pity from others.
A narcissist who survived a potentially deadly accident or terrible health scare often fails to see that they were blessed to survive & have this second chance at life. Instead, they may act like they are too good to have died in that way.
In an elderly narcissist who is getting more frail, the entitlement attitude becomes even more obvious than ever. Elderly narcissists often expect their spouses & adult children to take care of them 24/7, even doing things that the narcissists are still able to do. They use their failing health as an excuse to get out of doing things & a way to manipulate their families. Some have been known to take too many or too few medications to make themselves sick in order to gain attention.
In situations like these, narcissists may feel similar fear & terror everyone would feel. The difference is they don’t admit to these feelings. Instead, their sense of entitlement & grandiosity comes into play. They feel entitled to have their families, neighbors & doctors swarm around them to take good care of them.
And, if the narcissist in question recovers from a serious illness or survives a potentially deadly accident, don’t count on him or her changing. Narcissists don’t process things like healthy people do, as I mentioned earlier in this post. They won’t be inspired to make good, positive & healthy changes in their lives. In fact, some narcissists seem disappointed that their health problem has improved since it means they no longer are able to be the center of attention.
Witnessing such behaviors can be shocking, even when you know quite a bit about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It’s impossible for a normal, functional person to grasp fully narcissistic behaviors. They’re so drastically opposed to functional behaviors, it’s often impossible for a non-narcissist to wrap their mind around such things. If you feel this way upon witnessing a narcissist act in their totally dysfunctional way after a crisis, you’re not alone! My mother has had heart surgery twice in her life. The first time she seemed to have changed, but it didn’t last long. She was back to her overt narcissist ways in no time. The second time, there wasn’t any change, not even for a day. Witnessing both times was very difficult for me because it made no sense. Then having my own brush with death in 2015, it became even more mind boggling.
While I often suggest trying to understand what makes narcissists tick as a way to help victims protect themselves from accepting the blame for the problems in the relationship & predicting what the narcissist will do, in this area, I say give up. There’s no way to understand this bizarre behavior. Chalk it up to one more extremely dysfunctional way of thinking on the narcissist’s part.
Lastly, if you experience some sort of health scare, bad medical diagnosis or close call of some sort, I don’t recommend telling the narcissist in your life if you can help it. The vast amount of concern the narcissist has for herself won’t be showed to you. If the narcissist has experienced the same thing or knows someone who has, she WILL invalidate you. They had it worse, you just need to suck it up or take a pill. This sort of thing is why I never told my parents about my brush with death. When in such a situation, you don’t need their toxicity. You need compassion & gentleness, which are 2 things narcissists lack.
1 Timothy 5:3-8 “3 Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need. 4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. 5 The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help. 6 But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives. 7 Give the people these instructions, so that no one may be open to blame. 8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (NIV)
Elderly narcissistic parents are often even more entitled than their younger counterparts. For their children, this can be an incredibly painful position to be in.
Many adult children of narcissistic parents feel they have no other option than to be their parents’ caregiver, even at the cost of their health & their own family. After all, we can’t forget Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV). Then there is 1 Timothy 5:8 which says, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (KJV) Doesn’t this all mean you have to be hands on with your elderly parents, no matter what? NO!!
I do NOT believe that God wishes His children to take care of their narcissistic parents no matter the personal cost. That doesn’t sound like the God I know!
First, to honor your parent simply means to give them the respect they deserve as the people who created you. You acknowledge them as your parents. You speak to them civilly, not rudely or disrespectfully. Honoring them does NOT mean tolerating their abuse. It also doesn’t mean that you neglect your family to take care of your parents. If you opt to take care of your parents in a hands-on way, you can honor them by helping them as much as you feel able without wearing yourself out or neglecting your family.
Also, remember 1 Timothy 5:8 says that you must provide for them. You can provide for your parents in various ways, not necessarily being “hands on”. Arranging for help to come to your parents’ home is a great way to help them & provide for them. Researching local resources for whatever help they need is providing for them. Paying for things your parents need yet can’t afford but you can is providing for them.
As your parents become elderly & need more assistance than they once did, you need to prepare ahead of time as much as you can. Even if your parents are still relatively young, start to look towards the future now. You never know what can happen. Things can change in an instant, so you need to be prepared.
Start praying & asking God for wisdom & insight on what boundaries you will need to set when the time comes as well as strength to enforce those boundaries.
Read up on the topic to see what others do with their elderly narcissistic parents, & honestly ask yourself what you can & can’t do. There are plenty of informative caregiver websites out there.
Most libraries are a wealth of information. The library near me has a ton of pamphlets & booklets near the entrance on various services in the area, including information from the local Department of Aging. I found a booklet there for seniors’ resources. It includes information on cleaning services, in home health care, assisted living facilities, contact information from the Department of Aging, & much more. Your library may have a similar booklet- it’s worth checking into.
If you’re going to be involved in caring for your narcissistic parents, it’s best to learn as much as you can about what’s happening with their health. Narcissists love to exaggerate their illnesses, & you need to be aware of what the truth is & what they are making up. Read up about their conditions online or talk to their doctors without them around.
If something needs to be done to help you to help them, stress how this will help them. Leave out how it will benefit you entirely, & make it sound like it will help them only. In my own caregiving experiences, I’ve noticed that saying that something will help me falls on deaf ears. Saying that same thing will benefit the narcissistic parent however, gets the narcissist’s attention.
In fact, don’t discuss anything about you as much as possible. If an elderly narcissist knows you’re not feeling well or are tired, they will push you to do more & more as they can get away with it. Wearing you down gives them some sick pleasure.
When you set boundaries, do so as cheerfully as possible & with no explanations. As always, any information these people get can be turned into ammunition they will use to hurt you with.
It is possible to keep your sanity in tact while caring for a narcissist. Keep in mind everything you know about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, set & enforce boundaries, don’t neglect yourself or your own family for your parents & most of all, keep God first in your life. Depend on Him completely to help you do such things & show you what to do, when to do it & how to do it.
If you opt to keep your distance, then try not to feel guilty. If you know in your heart that you can’t be a more hands-on caregiver, there is no shame in that. God only asks people to do their best, nothing more. Sadly, some people are so incredibly toxic, there is just no way to interact with them on a daily basis. It happens, unfortunately. If your parent is that way, you have done nothing to feel guilty about by protecting yourself.
I have just published my newest book entitled, “The Truth About Elderly Narcissists”. It’s all about identifying their changing abusive behaviors, finding ways to cope with them while taking care of yourself, coping as a caregiver, as well as things to consider if you opt to go no contact.
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Recently I was involved in a discussion about how little information there is available for those with elderly narcissistic parents, including caring for them. It gave me an idea- write a book on the topic.
I have already started writing an outline & have some ideas. But, I’d like to hear from you, Dear Reader. I don’t want to miss anything on this topic. If there is any topic you’d like explored or if you have stories to include, please let me know. I won’t divulge your name to protect your privacy. You can comment on this post or email me privately at CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com
Thank you! I look forward to hearing from you! x0xo
So many adult children of narcissistic parents struggle when their parents become elderly or ill. They feel that because these people birthed & raised them, that they owe their parents everything at any personal cost, & the narcissistic parents feed that false belief.
The truth is, Dear Reader, you only owe your parents one thing- to honor them. Exodus 20:12 says, “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.” (KJV) Many people upon reading that verse think that means they have to blindly obey their parents, no matter their age, no matter how their parents treat them. That is simply not true however!!
You must understand what honor truly means. According to the Merriam Webster’s website, honor in this setting means, ” a showing of usually merited respect : recognition <pay honor to our founder>” Basically, you treat someone with courtesy & respect when you honor them. You don’t cuss them out when you get angry, you don’t manipulate them, you don’t abuse them in any way, you don’t lie to them.
There is also this little gem in Acts 5:29: “Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.” (KJV) In other words, obey God before you obey your parents. If you’re like most of my readers, this Scripture provokes a great deal of anxiety in you. You know when your parents want you to do something for them, they demand it be done in a prompt matter, no excuses! Not doing their bidding means you’ll have to pay & pay dearly. Disobeying them can be a daunting prospect to say the least. However, as a Christian, it is also good for you to follow it in spite of your fears. God never gives bad advice! Obeying Him will be more rewarding than disobeying them will hurt you. I’ve had to do this myself. Yes, it can be very scary, but clinging to the fact that God is good, loves me & wants the best for me helped me to obey him. Also, once you do it, it gets easier the next time, then the next time, & so on.
Keeping these two points in mind, along with prayer, can help you to decide what you owe your narcissistic, ailing parents. Do not allow anyone to tell you what to do. No one but you is living your life. You are the only one who can decide what you are & are not able to do regarding your narcissistic parents, preferably with the help of God.
If you’re a caregiver to an elderly parent or grandparent, there is a little something you need to know that will make your job more pleasant & improve the patient’s mood.
People need to feel useful. Even if a person isn’t physically able to do much, that person still needs to feel like they are capable of doing things. It can warm even the coldest heart when a person knows they have a purpose.
When collecting firewood for the winter, our neighbor helped out my husband. He is in his late 70’s & has quite a few health problems. Not only did he load his pick up full of wood, he helped my husband unload it. He was obviously very proud of his accomplishment, as he should have been!
When I was helping to care for my narcissistic grandmother in 2000, it was not a pleasant experience. She was a narcissist, & a very mean, cold, manipulative person. One day, she wanted applesauce. I assumed this meant she had a jar on a shelf somewhere, but I was wrong- she wanted homemade. Since I didn’t know how to make it, she taught me. That was one of only a couple of nice days I shared with my grandmother. As we both peeled & cored apples, we talked. She told me stories about her family as she showed me what to do. It was a surprisingly pleasant day. She was enjoying herself as she worked.
Although it’s no one’s job to make another person feel good about themselves, it’s a good idea to let people know how much you appreciate their help or what a good job they did so they feel useful. It truly brightens their day & makes them feel good.
If you’re a caregiver, it is also a good idea to give someone you’re caring for tasks to do that you know they are capable of handling because a person who sits back & does nothing while others do everything can get depressed. She may even feel like she has no reason to live, because she isn’t a contributing member of society anymore. Or, if the person you’re caring for is a narcissist, she will love the fact she has people at her beck & call. My grandmother was that way. She had no problem demanding I come do something for her at any time, no matter what I had going on in my life. One night at 9:30, when I was about ready for bed, she called my mother who had my father call me to tell me I had to get to her home right away. Why? Because when I wrote down her list of what medicine to take when, I scratched out something & she couldn’t read through the scratches. I had to go to her house & explain that I’d made a mistake, that was why I scratched out what I had. Just ignore it & focus on the things I’d written down. *sigh* Obviously it was all about control, but I was unaware of that at the time.
Even a malignant narcissist like my grandmother could be changed (temporarily but it still counts!) by simply making her feel useful. Giving her small things to do that she was physically able to easily do made a difference in her behavior.
Also, if you give a task, do so respectfully! Just because someone is older or frail doesn’t mean they are unworthy of respect. Please & thank you are phrases that go a long way with someone! And, don’t treat that person like a child. That does NOT go over well, & understandably so!
Don’t forget too, to say you could use some help. That helps to make the person feel useful rather than feeling patronized. With the applesauce, I made sure to tell my grandmother I needed some help that day since I had no clue what I was doing. Once she realized she was being useful, her mood drastically improved.
This advice isn’t only for the elderly or sickly, by the way. Everyone needs to feel like they have a purpose!
In my lifetime, I’ve known many narcissists. One thing they all share in common is that they change their tactics as they get older.
When I was growing up, my mother was the bold, it’s my way or the highway kind of overt narcissist. She would do anything she wanted to accomplish whatever her goal was, not caring how abusive it was, so long as there were no witnesses. Now that she is in her mid 70’s, she has become much craftier. Gone are the days when she would wait until we were alone, then scream in my face, calling me horrible names & accusing me of terrible behaviors. Now, her abuse is much more subtle. In fact, unless you’re familiar with narcissism, you wouldn’t even know she was being abusive. And, she likes witnesses. If my mother & I are in public, often with my father, I can count on her attacking me viciously & quietly. Barely audibly, she will insult my car, pets, writing or anyone or anything that means something to me. I have no doubt she is trying to provoke me into yelling at her, so others will see what a terrible daughter I am to my sweet, elderly mother.
My father, the covert narcissist, has always been subtle. When I was growing up, he feigned ignorance & inability to help me regarding my mother’s abuse, making him sound more like her victim than I was. I often reassured him instead of him reassuring or protecting me. Occasionally he still tries this tactic but it’s rather rare. Instead, he complains to me about his bad marriage (something he’s always done) & tries to stir up problems between my mother & I. He also now enjoys challenging my boundaries & using guilt trips/criticisms disguised as jokes then telling me not to be upset when I confront him. “Now now, don’t you go getting upset..I was just teasing” has become possibly my least favorite phrase in the English language.
The worst case of a narcissist changing their tactics I’ve heard of though is from a friend of mine. Her mother was an overt narcissist & her father covert. Her mother was incredibly violent & vicious to her children. Her father wasn’t home much due to his job, so he didn’t see a lot. He claimed that he didn’t know just how bad she treated the children (I guess he missed the bruises & broken bones?) & that he couldn’t stop her.
Shortly after her mother died, her father married another woman, who was much like my friend’s mother. This woman didn’t want him to see his now adult children, & he told them there was nothing he could do about it.
Once she died, he expected his children to take care of him. They do everything for him from making his bed to cleaning his house to paying most of his bills. My friend’s father demands this & will go to great lengths to be sure his children do these things & more for him. Once a covert narcissist, he became a very overt one.
Dear Reader, you need to be aware of these things, because your narcissistic parents will change too. You need to be able to adapt your behaviors to fit in with theirs if you plan to continue having a relationship with them.
Some things are a given when dealing with any narcissist- you need to have & enforce good boundaries & show them no emotions, for example. Other things however, you may need to change, such as if your narcissistic mother tries to stir you up in a public place like mine does, avoid public places with her as much as possible. If your father suddenly likes to portray himself as a helpless old man when you know he isn’t, you will need to let him do what he can on his own.
If you are unable or unwilling to go no contact with your narcissistic parents, you are going to have to learn to be very firm in some areas, while very flexible in others. Always be firm with your boundaries, staying emotionless in their presence, providing them minimal information on your life & limiting your time with them. But, be flexible enough to know when things are changing & your old ways to deal with them aren’t working anymore or you need to find new ways to deal. Get creative- ask God to help you in that area if you aren’t sure what to do. Remember Matthew 10:16 “Stay alert. This is hazardous work I’m assigning you. You’re going to be like sheep running through a wolf pack, so don’t call attention to yourselves. Be as cunning as a snake, inoffensive as a dove.” (MSG)
As difficult as it may sound, you truly can handle this. God never gives you more than you can handle, although it may feel that way sometimes. Follow His guidance, common sense, your intuition & remember what you know about narcissists, & you will be just fine. Remember my post about my last visit with my parents? If not, please read it now. It is proof that God cares & helps us even with our narcissistic parents. If He helped me become the much stronger, capable person I’ve become, He certainly will help you as well.
Good morning, Dear Readers!
I thought I’d share some things with you today…
I am gaining a new appreciation & respect for dreams as of late. All of my dreams seem to have some valuable message in them these days. I seldom understand them immediately, so I look up various symbols on my favorite dream interpretation site, http://www.dreammoods.com, jot notes down, ask God what it all means & wait for His answer. It comes fairly quickly & is always eye opening. God truly speaks to us via our dreams! You would be wise to start paying attention to yours as well.
I also learned something valuable Sunday while at my parents’ house. In typical narcissistic mother fashion, my mother tried to shame me for liking a couple of things she doesn’t like. Obviously, something is wrong with me because I’m different than her yanno! lol As she was making absolutely certain I knew this, a joke I absolutely love popped into my mind…
These 2 proper Southern belles were sitting on a veranda, drinking mint juleps & talking. The one said to the other,
“You see this diamond necklace? My husband gave that to me when we got married.”
The second said, “Well ain’t that nice?”
“You see this pearl bracelet? My husband gave that to me when our son was born.”
“Well ain’t that nice?”
“You see that Jaguar in the driveway? My husband gave that to me for our anniversary last week.”
“Well, ain’t that nice?”
“Speaking of anniversaries, you & your husband had one recently. What did he get you?”
“He paid for me to go to charm school.”
“Charm school? What on earth did you learn there?”
“I learned how to say well ain’t that nice instead of who gives a ****?”
As my mother was finishing up her shaming me because I said I kind of like mincemeat pie & she doesn’t, I simply said, “Well, ain’t that nice?” My mother is from PA- a northern woman through & through- so she just looked at me funny when I said that, & changed the subject immediately. My father, however, is from VA, & thoroughly Southern. He knew what that meant even though I’ve never told him that joke, so he snickered a bit. I realized saying that joke’s punchline worked very well for me. I was able to tell my mother her opinion means nothing to me in a respectful way, & she stopped that shaming thing that irritates me so badly. I’m thinking “well, ain’t that nice” is going to be said a LOT in my near future. You may want to try this one with your narcissistic mother too. 😉
Speaking of my parents, I’ve had several people ask me lately why I’m helping my parents out. Considering how poorly my mother has treated me as I’ve been helping her plus my own health issues, why even try? I thought I would answer this question here. I guess it’s because I’m my parents’ only child. They don’t have any other family they can rely on besides me. Yes, they can hire help (which I’m working on getting that going- I can do some, but more help would be very nice), but I want to at least try to help out. This has been a learning experience for me, too. I’ve come to realize I was thinking more like their child instead of their daughter, & am changing that. I’ve gotten stronger with setting/enforcing boundaries. I’m learning new ways to cope with nastiness & gaslighting (such as the “well ain’t that nice” comment). I’m also getting better at self-care out of sheer necessity. I’ve found local resources that may prove to be valuable to them as well, so while they are not in dire need of a lot of help at the moment, if, God forbid, that happens, we will know where to turn. So, as difficult as things are, at least I’m getting some good from it while providing them with the help they need.
Good afternoon, Dear Readers!
Sunday was only my second day helping my parents, but it was a really rough one both mentally & physically. So rough in fact, I realized that I can’t keep doing this. I can offer some help, sure, but on a very limited basis. Mentally I’m not very strong anymore. Then physically, I have bad knees so a lot of things are just too painful for me to do. I’ve been doing my parents’ laundry, as my father is now unstable on his feet after his stroke, & my mother claims her back pain is too bad to go up & down those steps. She has been wanting to have the washer & dryer moved upstairs from the basement, but has been dragging her feet on the issue. The next time I see my parents on this coming Sunday, I am going to tell her it needs to be done soon, & if not, then I will arrange to have help come into their home that they can pay for.
In order to discuss this topic with my narcissistic mother, I was given some very valuable advice. Something I hadn’t thought of. Make it all about her. If I told my mother I wasn’t able to do certain things because of my knee pain, she wouldn’t care. But, if I tell her that my knees make me unable to do things, which could cause her problems, she’ll be more interested. And, this winter is supposed to be a bad one with a lot of snow here in MD. I live on a major highway, which means I get plowed in. The highway may be clear, but there is a wall of solidly packed snow created by snowplows at the end of my driveway that means I can’t get out quickly or easily. This would affect her! I’ll just leave out the part that it’s frustrating when I get plowed in. This seems like a very good way to handle discussing things of this nature with any narcissist, I think. Every child of a narcissistic parent knows their parent doesn’t care about them unless what happens affects them somehow.
I have begun researching getting some help to be prepared. I looked into their insurance to see if they have long term care coverage, which they don’t. Long term care coverage is a wonderful thing- it pays for health care workers or nurse to come into their home & help them out in various ways.
Since that didn’t work out, I then found this link which directed me to my local caregiver support network in my county.
This has been a very helpful place for me to start. They told me an evaluation would need to be done (free) by a social worker before help can be hired, & provided me that phone number. They also gave me references to local home health care workers (they’re the people who do chores, laundry, & such), a directory of various services available in this state for seniors, info on a caregiver support group & much more. I learned that certain injuries or illnesses may be entitled to specific benefits. For example, my father has a traumatic brain injury, & there are special services available for him.
Here is another link with some good information as well:
My father also gave me a paper with some information on it that he got from his last hospital stay, too. Apparently many medical records can be available online & this paper had all the information I needed to access it. This is very handy as I can read exactly what the doctors have said & how they are treating him.
As for myself, I’m realizing that I need to take a day off each week to recover physically & mentally. Tuesdays work well for this for me, so I now plan to goof off each Tuesday. It gives me something to look forward to.
I hope this information helps any other caregivers who may be reading this. ❤
Very good & informative article about caring for a narcissistic parent
Good morning, Dear Readers! I hope this post finds you enjoying your Sunday.
I just thought I’d pop in to give an update on Pretty Boy & thank everyone for your prayers. THANK YOU!!!! From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for your prayers, well-wishes & concern for my little man, as does my husband. 🙂
Today makes the third day since we’ve been to the vet & received his diagnosis. He seems to be doing a bit better. He is a little more active- more cuddly (like his old self) & he even “killed” the ring off a milk jug lid last night & howled proudly to show off his accomplishment. I hope & pray this is a good sign, that the liver problems he’s having are related to the diabetes, because at least that is most likely fixable.
What a journey it is, having a sick pet.. it is like having a sick human baby- they can’t verbalize exactly what they are feeling, so you have to do your best to figure out what the problem is & the best way to treat it. It isn’t easy, that’s for sure! But I wouldn’t trade it for anything.. the constant, unconditional love that my pets give me makes any problems worth the while. 🙂