Recently I learned something very interesting & also useful for those of us affected by narcissistic abuse. We are very prone to Cluster C personality disorders.
Cluster C personality disorders involve OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), Avoidant Personality Disorder & Dependent Personality Disorder:
- OCD involves obsessive, perfectionistic type thoughts. We need consistency, organization & routine.
- APD means we are so socially anxious, we avoid social interaction as much as possible. We are deathly afraid of ridicule or criticism. We also have very low self esteem.
- DPD involves indecisiveness, the need for reassurance, clingy behavior, & a fear of being alone.
If this describes you, please know you are not alone. After reading this information, I realized these disorders describe me very well. I would feel very safe in assuming it’s not just me. These traits describe so many of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse that I have talked to.
There is also one positive note in that personality disorders describe behavior, which means they can be changed. Personality disorders describe a behavior rather than physical brain damage, so that means they can be changed.
So how do you change these dysfunctional & unhealthy behaviors? In all honesty, I’m not really sure. Since I just learned about Cluster C disorders, I really don’t know much about them just yet. I do know, though, that God is the best place to start dealing with any problem. Since I just learned this information earlier today, I plan to spend some time in prayer later today when I have some uninterrupted private time to try to figure out where to start. I’m going out on a limb here to say I think God will want me to start with asking Him to tell me the truth. “Do I really need to be so anxious around other people? Is it right for me to be so perfectionisitic, so hard on myself? What is the real truth in these situations?” (as an example). That is always a great place to start, listening to God tell you the truth. He will, & His words are full of healing power.
I’m sorry I don’t have more information to share at this moment, but I will share as I learn. Hopefully it will benefit you as well as me, Dear Readers! xoxo