When people hear the word evil, all kinds of things come to mind. Serial killers, psychopaths, monsters with glowing red eyes & of course the devil himself. What people usually don’t think of when they hear the word evil is those people who portray themselves as good, caring, generous & often a bit naïve, yet who always have something snide to say to or about other people while maintaining their good appearance somehow. I’m referring to covert narcissists. In my opinion, people like this are among the most evil people of all.
Covert narcissists are masters at appearing to be good while they are truly nothing but pure evil. They are manipulative but claim they are just trying to help. They cause pain while claiming they didn’t know what they said or did would hurt the person they hurt. They gossip & spread lies under the guise of being concerned about someone. Whatever happens to them was never their fault. They are the perpetual victims of the world who don’t deserve anything bad that happens to them.
Elderly narcissists are especially good at behaving in this manner. It’s human nature to want to care for those weaker than us, & they exploit that as much as they possibly can. Many will fake, exaggerate or even lie about an illness if it will get them attention or punish someone, usually their adult children, who they perceive has done them wrong somehow. They demand their adult children’s time even when it’s unnecessary & their adult children have other more important responsibilities.
Flying monkeys to me are the worst of the worst of covert narcissists, second only to elderly ones. Flying monkeys often claim they are just trying to help or be supportive, yet these contemptible fiends are actually enjoying hurting the victim. Either they get a thrill from abusing the victim on behalf of the narcissist or from spying on the victim & reporting what they learn to the narcissist. I have a couple of them who spy on me, & very few things in life disgust me as much as these people.
These vile monsters leave a path of destruction in their wake that isn’t obvious to most people, many times including their victims. They don’t scream, rage or hit their victims. Instead, they quietly manipulate & disparage their victims with no other witnesses. This even happens when multiple people live in the same house. They carefully maintain their fake image of being a good person to everyone but their victim, so when their victim tells others about the covert narcissist, no one believes the them. In fact, often they defend this monster & their horrible behavior. This allows the covert narcissist to continue abusing their victims quietly, & often the victim tolerates it because they think something is wrong with them for being upset by the narcissist’s behavior. Covert narcissists are absolutely disgusting, despicable & vile human beings.
I’m sure by now you think I’m angry about them, & you would be absolutely correct. Covert narcissists infuriate me with their “Poor pitiful me! I’m always the victim! I need people to coddle me!” act. I have dealt with more of them than I care to admit in my family, my husband’s family, former friends & even my ex husband. The more stories I hear similar to mine, the more disgusted & more angered I am by these people.
Many people think that since I am open about being a Christian, I’m wrong for feeling this way. I should forgive them & love them. I’ve been called out on my supposed “anger issues” & “ungoldly behavior” on this topic. They are wrong, though. Romans 12:9 in the Amplified translation of the Bible says, “Love is to be sincere and active [the real thing—without guile and hypocrisy]. Hate what is evil [detest all ungodliness, do not tolerate wickedness]; hold on tightly to what is good.” The behavior of covert narcissists is absolutely evil! Don’t think so? Then consider John 10:10. In the first half of the verse, Jesus discusses the devil. He says, “The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy…” That is exactly what covert narcissists do! They steal, kill & destroy anything they want from their victims, usually their time, peace, reputation, mental & sometimes physical health, self esteem, joy & often their will to live.
Anyone reading this today, please know that I mean every single word I’ve said here. Covert narcissists are pure evil. They easily can ruin your life & relationships. They love causing misery & pain while somehow managing to look magnanimous. Never underestimate them, as it’s never wise to underestimate an enemy. Protect yourself from them. Stay away from them whenever possible. If you must deal with them, never do so alone, because they will use that alone time to victimize you & no one will believe you about that.