I recently had an interesting dream. In it, I was at a concert of one of my favorite bands ever, Motorhead. The dream was a bit odd since I’m not exactly a concert goer. Watching them on TV is as close as I get.
When I woke up, I prayed then looked up what music & concerts meant on my favorite dream dictionary website, dreammoods.com. According to the site, dreaming of a concert symbolizes unity & cooperation. Very cool.. my husband & I were moving soon & the dream made me realize how well we’re working together to accomplish this. Dreaming of music meant something different though. The site said that dreaming of music depends on the dreamer. Each genres means something different & if the genre is something you like, the music is offering you advice. When I read this, it clicked in my brain immediately.
I’ve been a Motorhead fan for a long time, but in particular a fan of their late singer, Lemmy Kilmister. In some ways he was your typical heavy metal musician. But, in other ways he wasn’t & I always thought those ways were really interesting. Not only was he highly intelligent but had a very unique personality. He was fascinated by history. Most of all though, he was unapologetic for being himself. Not like a narcissist of course, just he had this attitude of, “This is who I am. I like me. Your approval isn’t required.” Never having such an attitude myself, I admire & even somewhat envy it in others.
I believe my dream was trying to tell me that I need to share Lemmy’s attitude. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own skin & not caring what others think about you. I realize narcissists try to make victims feel that way, but that doesn’t mean they’re right. They don’t want victims to feel that way because an insecure victim with low, or better yet NO, self esteem is easy to control. A person who is insecure doesn’t know what they want, think, feel & believe, which means they are going to be easily controlled.
Someone who has a healthy self esteem, however, is a threat to narcissists. They know who they are. They know what they want, think, feel & believe. They are well aware of their boundaries. Because of such things, they aren’t easily controlled or manipulated. They may be briefly but they catch on fast, & put an end to being treated that way even if it means ending the relationship.
Anyway I don’t think the lesson in this dream was only for me. I think it was for other victims of narcissistic abuse. If it was for you too, I’m sure this resonates with you as it did with me.
I have tried to develop Lemmy’s attitude. This is what I figured out about how to do that.
Naturally pray. Ask God to tell you the truth about yourself. That alone is eye opening! I did that myself some time ago & was shocked at what He had to say. He told me to research the personality of wolves, because that is what he created me to be like. I assume because of being such an animal lover, that was why He used that example. It was fascinating & so eye opening! I never would have thought that is what God created me to be like.
Once you do this, remind yourself often of whatever it is He tells you about yourself. Having the knowledge is a good thing of course, but reminding yourself of it often is what will get that knowledge inside of you. This was where I made my mistake. I didn’t focus on it as much as I should have, which is probably why I had the dream. Learn from my mistake! Think about what He said. If it helps leave notes or pictures around your home that remind you of it. Let this valuable knowledge get inside you & help you to blossom into the wonderful person He created you to be!