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As I’d written about some time back, I decided to learn more about evil & spiritual warfare. I started this journey after watching a sermon about witchcraft, & would like to share some about what I learned from that sermon. Just so you know, this is just scratching the surface. It’s quite an in depth topic.
Most people hear the word “witch” & think of images of a woman wearing all black, with a pointy black hat, & either riding a broom or stirring something in a large cauldron. This is not the norm, however, except in movies. Witches are all around us. Many who are involved with certain religions, such as Wicca & Paganism, openly practice witchcraft, but there are even more people who practice witchcraft in much more subtle ways. So subtle, in fact, that many witches don’t even consider themselves witches. These are those who do things that go against God yet aren’t as obvious, such as manipulating, controlling, envying or hating others. By doing these things that go against God, they are inviting the enemy, Satan, & his demons to work.
A side note here… such behaviors as manipulation, control & envying others are especially common among narcissists. This is just one more reason I believe Narcissistic Personality Disorder to be more about evil than a mental health problem. That isn’t the topic of this post, obviously, but I wanted to put it out there for something to think about.
Satan is a powerful enemy, but his powers are limited. He needs to use human beings to enable him to do much of his work in the physical realm. This is where people who don’t know God intimately come into play. When they come across someone who they feel threatened by – such as someone they view as more successful, popular or attractive – they hate that person easily. That hatred opens the door for Satan to work in their life as well as their victim’s life. To keep the original person engaged, Satan often works subtly to keep their minds focused on their hatred. One thing he does is to remind them to keep up with the personal details of that person they hate. I firmly believe that this is why some people are so devoted about keeping up with the personal details such as snooping on social media posts of people they hate. They certainly aren’t looking in the hopes of learning that the object of their hatred is happy & doing well. They are looking in the hopes of finding out that person is miserable, alone, broke, sick or whatever.
An important thing to keep in mind is that even Christians aren’t completely immune to the enemy’s attacks. Consider the story of Job. He was loyal to God, yet Satan attacked his health, family & more. Even Jesus was not immune to the enemy’s attacks while He was here in human form. Satan tempted Him. That story can be found in Matthew 4. No matter how much you love God, Satan still can cause you problems.
To protect yourself, you must learn about Satan. No one who successfully defeats an enemy does so without knowing about their enemy. They get to know how their enemy thinks & how they work. Remember that fighting Satan & his demons isn’t like fighting humans. Ephesians 6:12 describes them in the Amplified Bible, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood [contending only with physical opponents], but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this [present] darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly (supernatural) places.”
To fight a spiritual enemy, you also need to wear the armor of God as described in Ephesians 6:13-17: “Therefore, put on the complete armor of God, so that you will be able to [successfully] resist and stand your ground in the evil day [of danger], and having done everything [that the crisis demands], to stand firm [in your place, fully prepared, immovable, victorious]. 14 So stand firm and hold your ground, having tightened the wide band of truth (personal integrity, moral courage) around your waist and having put on the breastplate of righteousness (an upright heart), 15 and having strapped on your feet the gospel of peace in preparation [to face the enemy with firm-footed stability and the readiness produced by the good news]. 16 Above all, lift up the [protective] shield of faith with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God.”
And above all, never, ever fail to ask God for help, guidance, discernment, courage & anything else you need. If you don’t know what you need, that is ok! Just ask Him for help, & He will be glad to do so! Remember, Psalm 46 says that God is an ever present help in times of trouble, He is always with us & our Stronghold!
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I’d like to ask your opinions.
I’ve been feeling a pull to learn about spiritual warfare & evil spirits recently. The little bit I’ve learned so far has been quite eye opening. I expect much more to be equally eye opening & informative.
So what I’d like your thoughts about is this.. would you like me to share what I learn in this blog? Why or why not? Please answer yes or no in the poll that follows, & if you have something to say beyond that, feel free to say so in the comments.
By the way.. if I do it (big if!), it wouldn’t mean I’m changing my writing to focus 100% on those topics. Narcissism & narcissistic abuse recovery still would be the main focus of my writing. I would just interject some of the other topics in periodically as I feel is right. Also, I schedule posts to publish months in advance, so chances are, unless I rearrange posts, you won’t see anything for a while if I do opt to post on these topics.
Also, saying no won’t offend/hurt me. If you would prefer not to read about this, it’s perfectly fine to say so. I plan on learning about these topics for myself no matter what. I just wanted to know if anyone is interested in me sharing what I learn, as I learn is all.
Thank you so much everyone for taking the time to answer my question & share your thoughts! ❤️
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Over the last few years, I have heard the term “Christian narcissists” used repeatedly. It is used to describe people who are either active in their church or professing to be Christians, yet they also exhibit narcissistic behavior. Most commonly, these people are covert narcissists who revel in appearing martyr like in their life, giving to & doing for those who are “beneath” them somehow. They even can be leaders in their church who are perceived as good people, yet are subtly controlling church members & possibly even abusing their own families.
The problem is there is no such thing as a Christian narcissist. There are narcissists who pretend to be good & even Godly people, but they truly aren’t Christians. Labeling these people as such turns people away from Christianity.
These narcissists may be a bit hard to spot at first. They are busy doing for others, even sometimes at their own expense. They may donate large sums of money or spend great amounts of time volunteering. People speak highly of them for all that they do for others. Yet, if you look just below the surface, you can see hints that show these people aren’t the saints they portray themselves to be.
First & foremost, true Christians openly trust in Jesus as the Messiah, their personal Savior, & their behavior reflects that. “Christian narcissists” may claim to trust Him, but their behavior says otherwise. They don’t readily admit that they have a need for a Savior. They don’t talk much God & his goodness. They turn the topic back to themselves. They don’t have any interest in doing God’s will for their lives.
“Christian narcissists” see themselves as more special to God than other people. They don’t credit answers to their prayers to God’s love or kindness, but instead imply or even say outright it’s because He loves them more than other people. They make it sound like the only reason God answers their prayers & loves them is because they are such wonderful, special people. The Bible says that God doesn’t show favoritism in Romans 2:11, so clearly they’re wrong about that.
Another sign of a “Christian narcissist” is that this person doesn’t brag about God, only themselves. If you listen to these people long enough, you will see that their so called humility is peppered with bragging. They subtly mention how they have been such a blessing to someone else by taking them food or giving money during their times of need. They even may brag about the accomplishments of someone else in a way that makes them appear to deserve credit. But, they definitely don’t say things like, “You won’t believe what God has done for me!” “I am so grateful that God did this thing for me!” “I couldn’t have done that thing without God helping me or showing me what to do!” The Bible says that we are to brag not of our wisdom or other things, but only about God. Jeremiah 9:23-24 in the New International Bible says, “This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches, 24 but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord.””
If you speak to someone who claims to be a Christian yet demonstrates narcissistic behaviors like this, it’s certain you are dealing with a narcissist, not a Christian.
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Some of you long time readers will remember this story..
In May, 2016, I had a huge argument with my parents. My mother in-law had just died, & since they read the obituaries in the weekly paper, I knew they would see hers. I also knew that they wouldn’t acknowledge what I had told them about her that caused me to go no contact with her 14 years prior, but instead would talk about what a great lady she was. I was mentally prepared for that, so when I saw their number on my caller ID the day after her funeral when the paper came out, I wasn’t surprised. I asked God to help me get through the call & guide my words. I thought it was going to be a mostly typical conversation, & I was wrong.
I was NOT prepared for my parents being angry with me for not telling them about her death so they could attend the funeral. I also was ill prepared for the intense feeling of betrayal or the rage that I felt. I ended up yelling at, crying & cussing out my parents. Not my normal behavior by any means! When I hung up the phone my first step was to pray. I told God I was so sorry! I never should’ve behaved that way. Somehow I must have missed His guidance & messed up everything. God spoke to me extremely clearly at that time, & said, “I wanted this to happen. Your parents needed to see their normally calm & reasonable daughter extremely upset thanks to their behavior.”
That argument was the last time I spoke to my mother before she died just under three years later. It was also one of the last times I spoke to my father who died about eighteen months after. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, I think that argument was a catalyst for no contact for me, which in turn motivated my parents to turn to God at the end of their lives. It really did have a purpose!
At that time & for quite a while after, however, in spite of knowing my parents needed to see my reaction, I still felt terrible. The guilt was intense!
I think this is normal for most children of narcissistic parents. Our parents train us early in life to please them at all costs, & to feel intense guilt or even shame when we fail. Even when we are adults, when we do something that we perceive as wrong, we automatically feel that guilt because it’s a reflex built into us by our parents.
The thing is though that sometimes doing something other people think is wrong is a good thing. Naturally narcissists would disagree with that, but it’s true. What one person sees as wrong can be right for someone else.
While the guilt may make you feel as if you’re doing something bad, it may be inappropriate to the situation. God may be working through you, & sometimes He works through people in rather unusual ways. Just look at the argument I had with my parents. It felt awful at the time, but it turned out to be very beneficial for all three of us.
The next time you automatically feel guilt about something, then please, take a moment to ask God if that guilt is justified or if He is working through you somehow. You may be very pleasantly surprised to find out He is working through you, & there is no valid reason for you to feel any guilt!
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As I mentioned some time back, I decided to abandon making YouTube videos in favor of podcasts since they are much easier for me to make. And thankfully, they have been well received!
Because they have been doing well, I decided to expand where they can be accessed. My podcasts now be found on many platforms. Those links are below. I hope you will check them out!
So far, I’m still figuring this all out as I go. Not entirely sure what I’m doing at the moment, so please just bear with me! Plus, writing is my top priority & has been since God told me many years ago it was my purpose. This means podcasts aren’t going to get as much of my attention. I don’t have any particular schedule with them, so I won’t release new ones faithfully every day, week or even month. I release them a few at a time periodically. I have been pretty lazy about doing this over the last year or so, & I apologize for that. It’s changing, I promise! I just had so much happening in my life in the recent past, my work has fallen too far behind.
So anyway, here is the list of where my podcasts can be found. I hope you find a platform that you like, & will listen to them. Thank you as always for reading & supporting my work! I hope it blesses you as much as you bless me!
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Many people who have survived an abusive relationship, whether the abuser is a family member or spouse, have been told they must forgive their abuser if they truly want to heal. It is often said like forgiveness is a magic wand – once you decide to forgive, you do, all damage caused by the abuse is gone, the abuser has an epiphany about their horrible behavior & abuser & victim live happily ever after. Sadly, this is absolutely NOT the case!
Forgiveness can be an absolutely wonderful thing. Unfortunately though the topic is misunderstood by so many, & the people who believe wrongly seem to be the loudest about the value of forgiveness.
To start with, forgiveness doesn’t mean forgive & forget. There are many Scriptures that mention forgiveness in the Bible, but nowhere is “forgive & forget” mentioned. In fact, I consider it to be a very un-biblical concept. Jesus says we are to be as wise as serpents yet innocent as doves in Matthew 10:16. Forgiving & forgetting to me seems completely unwise. If someone is abusive, then their victim forgives & forgets abusive incidents, the abuser readily will repeat their abusive behavior because they know there will be no consequences. However, if you give them consequences for their behavior, there is a much better chance of them changing. Clearly that isn’t always the case but it creates a much more likely scenario than forgiving & forgetting, & allowing them to abuse you repeatedly.
Many people think that forgiveness & reconciliation are the same thing, but clearly they are not! Luke 17:3-4 in the Amplified Bible say, “Pay attention and always be on guard [looking out for one another]! If your brother sins and disregards God’s precepts, solemnly warn him; and if he repents and changes, forgive him. 14 Even if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times and says, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him [that is, give up resentment and consider the offense recalled and annulled].” Notice how it states that the offending person repents, you are to forgive him. It doesn’t say you must forgive no matter what.
Many people who misunderstand Godly forgiveness are also quick to quote the part of Ephesians 4:26 that says not to let the sun go down on your anger. They quote only a small portion of the verse. In reality, it says, “Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down.” According to this verse, anger is acceptable as long as you don’t allow it to motivate you to doing something shameful or sinful such as doing something vengeful to hurt the person who hurt you.
Another interesting point to consider about Ephesians 4:26. It shows what actions are acceptable reasons for feeling anger. Sin, immorality, injustice & ungodly behavior. There should never be a point in a person’s life that such things don’t make them angry! Feeling neutral about them or accepting them would normalize some pretty terrible behavior that should not be normal under any circumstances. You can forgive a person while still being furious about the wicked & cruel things they have done to you. I can tell you that I have forgiven my parents, but I still despise the cruel things they did to me in my lifetime.
If someone tells you that you need to hurry up & forgive your abuser or even “forgive & forget,” then please disregard what they say. Forgive God’s way when you are ready to take that step. Don’t let anyone make you feel as if you aren’t forgiving fast enough, as doing that can slow down the healing process. Take the step when you feel ready to do so & only then. And, never forget that you are always going to feel some anger at what was done to you because it was wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling that way! It’s a healthy way to feel & yes, even a Christian way to feel!
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