Are you often told you’re too sensitive? Criticized for crying easily or wearing your heart on your sleeve?
Many of us who grew up with narcissistic parents have heard those things & much more, especially from our narcissistic parents. It doesn’t help that most people these days think you shouldn’t show emotion. They often get extremely uncomfortable when someone shows emotion, & try to shame them into being silent. Have you ever survived losing a loved one or survived a traumatic event, then shortly after been told you need to “get over it already”? That is a prime example of what I mean by trying to shame someone into being silent about their emotions.
I don’t believe this is at all healthy! God has given us emotions so we can comfort another person who is suffering, know when to end a relationship or start a new one, when we need to make changes, when we are being mistreated or to appreciate when we are being treated well & much more. Why shouldn’t we feel these things??
Also, I believe being sensitive isn’t a bad thing. I believe it shows that you have a good, caring heart when things touch you so easily. Many people who were raised by narcissists turn out calloused & uncaring, but there are also a great deal of us who turned out sensitive & loving. We know what pain is like, & we don’t like seeing others in pain! We want to help them if possible, even if it’s only to make them laugh a little or know there is someone who cares.
So few people are comfortable showing their sensitivity for fear of criticism, but I would like to encourage you today to show that part of you to the world! The more of us who do, the more willing others will be to show their sensitivity too. It gives others courage to see people who share a quality being so open & unashamed about it. And, let’s face it- the world is not a nice place! It could use a lot more niceness, compassion & sensitivity. If you let a hurting person know you understand, that they aren’t alone, you’re there if they need you, or even cry with the person, that truly can comfort that person more than most anything else can. You may inspire a turning point in this person’s life- they may begin to heal because of you or use surviving their painful experiences to inspire others. They even may be inspired to stop contemplating suicide! You never know- you may save someone’s life or inspire them in a way no one else can!