I keep getting a message lately in various forms. so it’s safe to assume it’s very important….
Enjoy your life. Enjoy the little things like an unexpected hug or getting caught in a spring rain. Thank God for allowing you to wake up this morning. Spend time just sitting in His presence, thanking Him for whatever you are grateful for & allowing Him to love you. Complement freely- not only does it bless the person you’re complementing, but it also blesses you when you make them feel good. Take care of yourself, physically & emotionally. You’re no good to anyone (including yourself) if you’re sick or depressed. Play a game or resume a hobby you enjoyed as a child. Have fun, don’t just work from the time you wake up until the time you fall asleep.
Too many people are miserable. It’s so easy to get caught up in the negativity in life- Lord knows there is plenty of it everywhere! Just turn on the news & you can be overwhelmed with negativity in record time. And, if you’re like the bulk of my readers & have experienced narcissistic abuse, that certainly can make you negative & miserable. It’s hard to find good in the tremendous amount of pain it causes. Even so, there is still good to be found. You can celebrate the fact you survived the abuse that was meant to destroy you. You are strong- you got out alive & sane! I’m seeing more & more how tough I am to survive what I’ve been through, & I thank God for helping me get through it even though I didn’t believe in Him at the time. It’s a miracle to survive narcissistic abuse- never forget that! Embrace the fact you’re a walking, talking miracle for surviving something so heinous!
Whatever you do, just please, Dear Reader, enjoy your life as much as you can. After all, Jesus came so you can enjoy your life. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (NIV) So why not get to enjoying your life? You’ll be glad you did!
I have learned that something rather magical happens to many folks when they hit 40. Suddenly they no longer have the patience for abusive people & will confront them on their behavior. They become more outspoken without being hurtful, & more free with their praise. They begin to practice self-care for the first time. They are more compassionate & caring, because they have seen & been through some pretty rough things. They finally are freer as well. Free to be themselves, & free to do as they like without caring about the criticisms & judgments of others.
It’s a wonderful thing!!
If you aren’t 40 yet or if you passed 40 without experiencing this, don’t think you need to be 40 to experience this. It’s never too early or too late to improve yourself! Ask God to help you change however you need or want to. He will do so gladly. He wants you to be happy & if changing will help you accomplish that, He will be glad to help you.
Also think about some things & ask yourself questions. You don’t really need to worry about what other people think of you, so why does it matter to you what others think? Are you putting others before yourself constantly? Why? If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, I’m sure you believe (as I still battle with sometimes) that everyone else is more important & you don’t deserve to do good things for yourself. That is a lie! You DO deserve to do good things for yourself & take care of yourself. In fact, if you want to help others so much, you need to take care of yourself. If you don’t, you won’t have the physical or mental strength to help other people.
Do some soul searching. Ask yourself the tough questions like the ones in the previous paragraph & honestly answer them. You may surprise yourself. You also will become aware of some changes you need to make to help yourself live a happier life.
Good morning, Dear Readers!.
Yesterday & today, I’ve talked to many of my close friends. I haven’t spoken to one person who was happy with the holidays this year. Some people had intrusive family members making unreasonable demands, others have in-laws who dislike them & use the holidays to make their disdain known, others have dealt with arguments, & others had a sick child.
Over the years that I have grown to dislike the holidays, it’s because I’ve experienced many of those same things. I always thought it was just me- no one else could possibly feel the same way. I felt I should tell you today that you aren’t alone if you too feel this way. It doesn’t make you a bad person or bad Christian. It makes you someone who has had bad experiences.
I’ve also been realizing that some friends & I have become quite bitter in some areas, especially the holidays, & I don’t like it. After praying about it last night, I felt like God wants me to learn to have some fun daily. The reason I’m telling you this is I think it’s a good message for you, too. No one should live with bitterness inside. Life is too short to live that way, & you deserve better!
I made a short list of things to do to have fun.. it’s just a start. Please feel free to add to it, or remove suggestions that don’t sound appealing to you. But be sure to do something fun each day!
Dance while cleaning
Do a normal thing differently, like talk on phone outside on a pretty spring day.
Snuggle your furkids.
Prizes (reward yourself for a job well done with a little gift).
Get a coloring book.
Lose inhibitions- don’t worry about what other people think.
Be true to yourself.
Read your Bible often.
Try something new, like new clothes or a new hair style.
Do something nice for yourself daily.