Narcissists rely greatly on lies. Their lies help narcissists not only maintain the image of themselves they want other people to see, but also they help them to abuse their victims. Today, I would like to address some of their big lies they don’t want to get out.
Narcissists are necessary to live a good life, or so they say. Narcissists love to make their victims feel like without them, the victim wouldn’t succeed at all. The truth however is much different. The truth is without them, victims will succeed & be much happier. If you consider your life with & without the narcissist involved, no doubt you will see a LOT of differences. Your life without the narcissist was much better, wasn’t it?
You aren’t really the problem in the relationship. Narcissists love to lay the blame for all problems in the relationship on their victim, but you know what? That isn’t true! The problems in relationships boil down to the narcissist, every single time. They make the choice to abuse, & to push victims’ buttons relentlessly until they blow up. Victims respond in perfectly understandable ways in these situations. That doesn’t make any victim the problem in the relationship.
The narcissist also lied about how other people see you. Narcissists love to tell victims that other people see them as bad, abusive, mentally unbalanced & more as a way to isolate them. If a narcissist can convince their victim that everyone sees them a certain way, then chances of that victim looking to others for help or others telling the victim that the narcissist is abusing them are very slim.
They say you’ll never find someone who loves you as much as the narcissist. Narcissists love to tell their victims that no one could ever love them like the narcissist “loves” them. My ex husband told me that once, & you know something? He was right! I haven’t been in any other relationship with anyone who “loved” me like he did, & that is a wonderful thing! The only other person who will love you like the narcissist has is another narcissist. Functional people will love you in ways that don’t destroy your self esteem, identity, peace of mind, finances, life…
Whatever the narcissist said about you was wrong. I know, it can be very hard to believe this after the narcissist drilled certain things into your mind, but I promise you, it’s true. They don’t take the time to get to know their victims well, so they truly don’t know their victims, even though many will say they know the victim better than the victim knows himself or herself. Narcissists also work hard to convince their victims that they are stupid, ugly, lazy, worthless & much more as a means to gain control over them by ruining their self esteem. There is not one grain of truth in any of the terrible things the narcissist told you about yourself.
I pray this list of some of the secrets narcissists have helps you to see the truth, & be happier & healthier.
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