So many of us who have survived narcissistic abuse end up abandoned by those closest to us once we start to open up about what we experienced. Family & friends don’t believe us. They accuse us of being overly dramatic, attention seeking, vindictive & other awful & untrue things. They abandon us. I’ve experienced it, too. As a teen when my mother’s abuse piqued, her friends who once liked me no longer would give me the time of day. My own friends offered me no support. I also lost all friends except one once I opened up about what I experienced with my ex husband. Most people thought he was a great guy, & I was the ungrateful, evil wife who mistreated him so.
There is good news though!
Psalm 68:6 “God places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy. But he makes the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.” (NLT)
It’s true! When you feel abandoned & lonely, God will send the right people into your life. He certainly has done it to me! In 2000, I finally began to face my issues with my upbringing. At the time, I had no real friends & no family I could talk to about such things, & it hurt. I prayed a lot during that time, more than usual. I eventually felt I should contact my granddad who I hadn’t spoken to in years due to my mother & ex telling me my grandparents hated me. We ended up very close for the first time & he quickly became my best friend, not only my grandfather. He even gave me a computer because I’d said I wanted to get one, & thanks to that, I met some wonderful friends online. For the first time, I had a family- not all blood related, but I was very close to them nonetheless. In fact, I’m still close to many of them. God sent me even more wonderful friends into my life since, including old friends I had lost touch with many years ago. Truly, He has given me a family!
God can do the same for you. He loves you & wants to bless you. All you need to do is trust that His word is true, & ask Him to give you that family.