Electronics are a huge part of daily life. If we aren’t scrolling through social media or responding to emails, we’re often streaming music or movies to entertain us. None of these activities are bad by any means. However, it can be easy to get caught up in them.
For those of us who have experienced trauma such as narcissistic abuse, electronics can be both a blessing & a curse.
A blessing because they help us manage the C-PTSD. Calendars & other reminders help so much when we forget things way too easily. Mostly though, the access to information about the trauma we have experienced, ways to cope with it & meeting others with similar experiences are huge blessings.
Electronics also can be a curse. They offer a means of escape by mindlessly playing games, scrolling through social media or surfing the net. While there is nothing wrong with distractions, after trauma, it can be too easy to get caught up in them & avoid dealing with the damage from past trauma. A common sign of C-PTSD is doing mindless activities like getting lost in social media or tv shows.
Today I want to offer some suggestions to get you started stepping away from electronics while adding some substance & joy in your life.
First, consider what you are doing with your time. Is your electronics time valuable or necessary? If you are unsure, pray about it. God will help you to see things clearer.
If you can cut back on that electronics time, such as not needing it for your job, cut back. There are other things you can do with your time that are much more mentally healthy & productive.
Also consider what you are doing online. Are you wasting time playing games or scrolling mindlessly through social media? Are you obsessively looking for information about Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Neither are bad activities but they can be when done too much. Why are you doing what you are doing? Are you avoiding something? Again, pray if you need insight.
If you feel you have been spending too much time staring at your phone, computer or television, there are so many other good things you can do that can add more joy to your life.
Ban electronics for a set time each day. Don’t stare mindlessly at the television or your phone while eating. Instead, have your meal with another person & talk with them. If you’re eating alone, go out to eat & watch the other people in the restaurant. Or do some of the following suggestions during your anti-electronics time.
Spend time in nature. If you enjoy camping, go camping. If not, wander around a local park. Sit on your porch & listen to the birds while watching wildlife in your yard. Sit outside at night & admire the beauty of the stars & planets.
Play. Play board or card games with your friends & family. Go bowling. Play pool or ping pong. Try crossword puzzles or word find puzzles. Put a jigsaw puzzle together. Purchase nice colored pencils & a coloring book that strikes your fancy.
Don’t neglect your hobbies. What have you been neglecting? Painting? Drawing? Woodworking? Playing a musical instrument? Cross stitch? Crochet or knitting? Get back in the habit of making time for your hobbies. If you don’t have any, then it’s time to find a hobby that appeals to you. A good place to start is by asking yourself what did you enjoy doing when you were a child? Wandering around a craft store is also a good idea. There is plenty of inspiration to be had in such stores for both men & women.
As useful & wonderful as electronics can be, it’s important to have balance in your life & not be too dependent on them.