Today’s post admittedly sounds different than my usual posts. I hope you’ll continue reading anyway, because I believe the message is important.
I woke up recently from a nightmare, as I often do. In it, I was driving a young girl somewhere while she used my phone to call one of my relatives. As a funny aside, I know in the dream I blocked my number from showing up on the relative’s phone when she called.. just as I would do in real life. Anyway the phone was on speaker, so I could hear the conversation. It sounded innocent enough. I was fairly guarded anyway, because although I haven’t had any negative interactions with this relative, I also haven’t had any positive ones either. I wasn’t sure if this person was safe or unsafe. This relative asked to speak to me, & the girl looked at me before answering. I quietly said, “maybe tomorrow” & she said that to the other person. Suddenly this person’s demeanor went from normal to viciously trashing me. She said I was selfish to the core, a spoiled brat & many more awful things that my family has said to & about me. I grabbed the phone to hang up as I drove & that is the point I woke up.
It triggered a nasty emotional flashback as I woke up. It emotionally took me right back to the time when my father was dying, when my family attacked me constantly & daily for his final almost three weeks because I didn’t say goodbye to him. When I was able to physically calm down a bit, I began to pray, as I often do when I have nightmares. This turned out to be very interesting. God not only comforted me as usual, but He also told me some things.
God reminded me of that awful time when my family was attacking me, & how He told me then that they did so partly out of denial. They wanted to believe my father was a great guy, our family was great & I was the problem. Me not saying goodbye threatened their denial, which is mostly why they were so cruel to me at that time.
He also told me about facing truth opposed to living in denial. He said denial isn’t simply a poor coping skill. It comes straight from the devil himself. Denial is about lying to yourself rather than facing the truth. Since the enemy hates truth, of course something coming from him would embrace lies & reject truth. John 8:44 in the Living Bible says, “For you are the children of your father the devil and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning and a hater of truth—there is not an iota of truth in him. When he lies, it is perfectly normal; for he is the father of liars..”
People who are deeply entrenched in denial hate anyone who is a threat to it, & will do anything to protect it. The reason being, God said, is that they become “entwined” with the enemy. I found that choice of words interesting, so I looked it up to be sure of exactly what it meant. According to Cambridge dictionary’s website, the definition of entwined is “closely connected or unable to be separated.”
A person gets into this entwined state so subtly, they fail to recognize it. It starts out as learning something painful. Anyone’s natural reaction to pain, physical or emotional, is to pull away from it. The devil uses this reaction to his advantage. He convinces people just don’t think about the pain & it won’t hurt anymore. Simple, subtle & very effective. This happens repeatedly with other painful things, & the more it happens, the more entwined someone becomes with the enemy.
When a person is deeply entwined with the enemy, they can’t see their bad behavior as bad. They are so entangled with him that they will not see truth. They almost never see how their denial hurts other people. On the rare occasion that they do see it, they are so deceived that they see any person who tries telling the truth as a real problem. That means they think hurting anyone who tells the truth is acceptable & sometimes even a good thing to do. With my situation that I mentioned earlier, God showed me at that time that my family truly thought they were doing the right & even Godly thing by trying to harass, bully & shame me into saying goodbye to my father.
Being involved this way with the enemy doesn’t mean they aren’t entwined with him in other areas as well. Since he found one access point into a person’s life, he certainly can find others just as easily.
I know that all of this may sound hard to believe. I get that. However, I firmly believe this to be accurate since it can be backed up by Scripture. Consider Ephesians 6:12 also from the Living Bible. It says, “For we are not fighting against people made of flesh and blood, but against persons without bodies—the evil rulers of the unseen world, those mighty satanic beings and great evil princes of darkness who rule this world; and against huge numbers of wicked spirits in the spirit world.” Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the devil & his minions stopped attacking people. Quite the opposite in fact. Psalm 55:3, Psalm 38:20, Psalm 64:1, Psalm 69:4, Ephesians 6:11 & 2 Timothy 4:18 are just a few examples.
Please seriously consider what I have said here today. Pray about it for yourself, & ask God to show you the truth if you have doubts.