Being strong has some very dysfunctional connotations that are often admired. Showing no emotion, not defending yourself to someone abusive & moving on quickly after losing a loved ones are some good examples I can think of that many people think are being strong but are actually very dysfunctional. Today I thought I’d share things that are real signs of strength & are very healthy as well.
Being vulnerable enough to show & honor your emotions is truly strong. It is incredibly hard to show vulnerabilities in a world where people can be so judgmental, critical, minimizing & invalidating. Displaying & also honoring your emotions without apology in spite of the judgment & potential cruelty of other people takes a great deal of strength.
Refusing to tolerate things & people that cause you pain & suffering is another sign of real strength. Doing so can cause you to lose people in your life that you thought loved & supported you, so doing it in spite of knowing that it may mean people you love will abandon you takes a lot of strength. I’m specifically thinking of those of us who have ended relationships with our abusive parents with this one. No matter how they may treat you, many people put all parents on a pedestal, thinking they are all wonderful & loving. These people clearly think that means you never abandon them because they are your wonderful parents, so if you do, they will have plenty of cruel things to say to you. Doing what you need to in order to protect yourself takes a lot of strength.
Standing up for what is right takes a great deal of strength. Doing this means you most likely will face a lot of opposition & judgment. Doing what is right in the face of that isn’t easy or for the faint of heart, in particular when it is something that can attract a lot of attention.
Refusing to compromise your morals also takes a lot of strength, especially when doing so could benefit you somehow. Society as a whole seems to think having good morals are outdated & foolish. People should just do whatever they want without thoughts to consequences. Not living that way takes dedication & strength.
Going against what is considered normal takes a lot of strength. People rarely admire people that are considered abnormal in any way. Those with a strong faith in God are mocked for being so religious. People with children claim childless people are selfish. People who work in the arts are told they don’t have a real job by those who work traditional 9-5 type jobs. The list goes on & on. Going against the norm sets you up for lots of criticism from people who lack the courage & strength to do it themselves, so it takes a lot of strength to do what works for you when it goes against the norm.
Facing the ugly truth rather than living in denial by believing comfortable lies also is a sign of great strength. Honestly, truth isn’t always easy. Sometimes it seems like it would be so much easier just to deny & ignore painful truth. Taking the right path by facing truth instead of ignoring it takes a lot of strength & courage.
Being real & genuine instead of fake takes a lot of strength. Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to pretend to be whatever other people want you to be since you wouldn’t face the judgment & criticism of other people. But that is no way to live. The world is full of fake & desperately needs some authenticity. Authentic people are what makes the world a better place, not the fake ones. It takes strength to be real in a fake world.
Asking for help absolutely takes a lot of strength. It is a very humbling experience to ask someone for help of any type, whether it is a physical need, financial or even emotional. Asking for help knowing you may be rejected takes strength.
If you think about your life & you have done these things, then you are strong! Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Be proud of yourself for your strength!
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