Good morning, Dear Readers!
I was just thinking about something.
I was thinking of some of the reasons I have to be grateful. It’s a practice I think everyone needs to do often. Yes, it can be hard, especially when, like me, you have C-PTSD & your brain is already so “full” (anxiety, hyper-vigilence, flashbacks..) it can feel as if one more thing won’t fit in there. However, that is exactly why it is good to distract yourself from the bad things sometimes, & think of positive things.
Also, if you focus on negative things such as the events that caused the C-PTSD, your symptoms or even learning about why your abuser did what she did to you, it can consume you. I learned this when I was writing my last book, “It’s All About ME! The Facts About Maternal Narcissism.” While writing a book, I pretty much become obsessed for a while. I think about what I’m writing non-stop, so I can put my best into it when working on a book. This book was no exception, however the topic of the book was a very challenging one. I learned so much about Narcissistic Personality Disorder while writing the book! I felt as if God opened my eyes & I was seeing so much more about it than I ever could’ve imagined. While that was great & I think it gave me a very good book, it became overwhelming often. I took frequent breaks, but I don’t think frequent enough or pampering enough. I saw things in a new light with my own mother & father too. I had more nightmares than usual. My sleep was terrible. I lived & breathed NPD. By the time the book was finished, I was deeply relieved. That was in September, & I haven’t even thought about what book to focus on next as I still feel like I’m recovering from that time.
Learn from my mistake!!
If you are going through a hard time or have C-PTSD like me, distract yourself often. If you care for someone who is ill or elderly, again, distract yourself often. Fun distractions will help you tremendously! They will help you to keep a more positive attitude & not become overwhelmed with negative things. They also will help you to rest better at night, & be more relaxed during the day. Basically, they will help you to be the best “you” that you can be, which benefits you as well as the other people in your life. You won’t be of any good to anyone if you are tired, depressed, anxious & negative.
And, if you have C-PTSD, then you are well aware how common suicidal thoughts are. This is especially important for you! It can be hard to fend off such terrible thoughts even when you know it’s just the disorder talking rather than what you really want. I have found that distracting yourself during those times to be especially important. If thinking of the good things in your life isn’t powerful enough, do something else. Go shopping & get yourself a little something special. Go to a museum or the zoo. Take yourself out for a nice meal, or go with someone you love. If agoraphobia is an issue, go for a drive in the country or near the water, alone & enjoy the beautiful scenery.
What ways do you have that you can distract yourself during hard times? What things are you grateful for in your life that you can focus on today?
To help get you started, here are some things that I thought of earlier that I am grateful for..
- I’m grateful for my family. My mother wouldn’t let me be close to anyone in my dad’s family when I was a kid, so I have been getting to know some of my relatives for the last almost 15 years. I am very grateful for the new relationships/friendships I have.
- Along those lines, I’m grateful for the nice long talk I had with one of my cousins last night. He’s a great guy, & I’m glad to finally be able to get to know him.
- I’m grateful for my furkids. My babies are incredibly sweet & loving. They are awesome as well as cute as can be.
- I’m grateful God sent my cat, Punkin to me. The poor little fellow has PTSD (I saw him have a flashback once – WOW!), so we are able to help each other when the symptoms get bad. We understand each other so well since I learned what was happening with him.
- I’m grateful for this time of year. Fall is my favorite season. I am LOVING the beautiful colors of the leaves & the nice temperatures.
- I’m grateful for having some amazing friends. They’re supportive & caring.
- I’m grateful for the old friends I’d lost touch with, but then caught up with on facebook in recent years. They are wonderful, & most haven’t been scared off by me having C-PTSD. Instead, they have been non-judgmental & supportive.
I also have some plans for nice distractions for this weekend…
- It’s the Halloween season, which means scary movies I love are on TV!! I basically plan to be a couch potato until November 1 & enjoy the movies!
- My husband’s birthday is on Sunday. Since he’s working that day, we are celebrating later today. We’re going to a local car show we both enjoy, probably getting dinner out, & after that, maybe playing some video games or watching more scary movies (he enjoys them too) & having some birthday cake that I made him. We may even go for a drive to enjoy the fall scenery (which he also loves).