Abuse is a traumatic experience that can leave lasting scars on a person’s mind, body, & soul. While some people believe that victims of abuse can heal completely, the reality is that some things are impossible to heal from in a lifetime. Unfortunately, many victims are made to feel as though they’re doing something wrong if they don’t heal or if God doesn’t deliver them. However, the Bible tells us that God will continue to perfect & complete us until the day of Christ. In the meantime, we can find comfort in knowing that God is with us, even in the darkest of times.
As a victim of abuse myself, I know firsthand the struggles of healing & the pressure to heal quickly & completely. However, I also know that there should be no timetable for healing & that it’s not a linear process.
When I first began my healing journey, I felt immense pressure to heal completely & quickly. I thought that if I just prayed hard enough or tried hard enough, I would be able to erase all the pain of the trauma that I had experienced. When that didn’t happen, I felt ashamed of my weakness & lack of faith. However, as time went on, I realized that healing is not quick & easy, each person’s healing journey is unique, there is no right or wrong way to heal & how you heal isn’t an accurate way to measure your faith in God.
It’s also disturbingly common for people to believe that healing means completely forgetting about the past or never feeling pain again. However, this is wrong & damaging to victims. Healing is about learning to live with the past & finding ways to cope with the pain. It’s about developing resilience & self-compassion, even in the midst of our struggles.
The pressure to heal completely can be harmful & counterproductive. It can lead to feelings of shame & inadequacy, which can further delay the healing process. It’s important to have a healthier view of healing.
Self-compassion is a vital aspect of the healing journey. It involves treating ourselves with the same kindness, concern, & understanding that we would offer to anyone we love. Self-compassion allows us to acknowledge our pain without judgment & to be patient & gentle with ourselves as we navigate our healing journey.
For many victims of abuse, faith can play a significant role in the healing process, but that doesn’t mean if you just have enough faith, God will heal you completely. He may do that sometimes but the majority of times, He helps you to work out your healing. One of the most powerful Scriptures is Psalm 23:4. In the Amplified Bible, it tells us, “Even though I walk through the [sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] & Your staff [to guide], they comfort & console me.” This verse is a wonderful reminder that God is with us, even in the darkest of times. We don’t have to go through our struggles alone & God is there to guide & comfort us. As a side note, faith also can provide a sense of purpose & meaning in our struggles. It helps us to see our pain as a part of a larger plan & to trust that God will use our experiences for good.
Healing from abuse is a complex & challenging process. It’s important to remember that healing is not a destination but a journey, & there is no right or wrong way to heal. The pressure to heal completely can be harmful & counterproductive, & it’s essential to show ourselves kindness & compassion throughout the process. It’s important to remember that God will help us to heal, there is no timeline on healing, & no one has the right to judge your healing journey.
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