Dysfunctional people are those who have experienced trauma or other negative life events that have affected their mental health & well-being. They can struggle with addiction, depression, anxiety, or a plethora of other mental health issues. Sadly, some dysfunctional people become so committed to their dysfunction that they have no tolerance for anything functional or healthy.
These individuals may try to bring others down to their level by discouraging healthy habits or behaviors. For example, if you are trying to eat a healthy diet, they may tell you that you are missing out on all the good foods & that you should indulge in unhealthy options. They may also try to sabotage your efforts by tempting you with unhealthy foods or behaviors.
Such people also frequently try to silence others who have been through trauma, especially if the trauma is similar to theirs. They don’t want to be reminded of the pain they’re working hard to avoid or they feel badly about themselves when they see someone else conquering the same demons they are too afraid to face. Shutting down others in similar situations is an effective way for them to avoid these feelings.
It is important to remember that dysfunctional people are not necessarily bad people. They are struggling with their own demons. They don’t know how to overcome them & lack the courage to try. However, it is not our responsibility to fix or rescue them. We must prioritize our own mental health & well-being, & that means setting boundaries with those who aren’t good to or for us.
If you find yourself in a relationship or friendship with someone who is dysfunctional & unwilling to heal, it is important to protect yourself from their toxicity. This can mean setting boundaries or even ending the relationship altogether.
Setting boundaries with dysfunctional people can be difficult, especially if they are family members or close friends. However, it is important to remember that you have the right to prioritize your own well-being. This means limiting contact with them or avoiding certain topics of conversation.
If you have experienced trauma or abuse in your own life, it can be especially difficult to navigate relationships with dysfunctional people. They can be incredibly frustrating if you have worked on your healing, & their behavior can be very upsetting, even triggering. It may be necessary to end the relationship altogether, especially if they’re negatively affecting you somehow. This can be a difficult decision, but you need to remember that you deserve to be around people who support & uplift you.
It’s particularly helpful in such situations to reach out for support from God, other believers, a trusted friend, family member, or even a counselor.
While it can be difficult to set boundaries or end relationships, it is important to prioritize our own needs & protect ourselves from toxic influences such as dysfunctional people who aren’t interested in their own healing. Although we are called to love & care for those around us, we need to remember that we can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first, & then you can be a blessing to those around you.
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