― Albert Einstein
Silence is a narcissistic abuser’s best friend. Silence not only allows abusers to continue to abuse, it basically encourages them to abuse. When abusers don’t have consequences or anyone saying, “What you’re doing is wrong”, what motivation could they possibly have for changing their behavior?
By silence, I am not only referring to the silence of the victim, but others as well. If the child of one of your relatives is being abused, but no one speaks up, the abuse will most certainly continue. If no one gets involved, why should the abuser stop abusing? The abuser is getting what he or she wants, which is all that matters to that person. There is no motivation to stop abusing.
Some people may find this speaking out to be immature, holding a grudge or even “un-Christian” behavior, but it really isn’t. Ephesians 5:11 says, “Take no part in the worthless pleasures of evil and darkness, but instead, rebuke and expose them.” (TLB)
Narcissism must be rebuked & exposed! Allowing narcissists to continue to abuse their victims without consequences does no one any good whatsoever! Abusers continue to hurt people & victims continue to suffer so long as no one speaks out.
As victims, we must speak out about our experiences. Other victims need to know that they aren’t alone, they aren’t crazy or to blame for the abuse as their abusers have told them they are & that there is life after narcissistic abuse. They also need to know ways to cope with a narcissist if they are unable or unwilling to be no contact & no one but another victim can share successful ways to do that.
If you aren’t a victim, however, but you know someone who is, you’re not off the hook! If you know someone who is being abused, support & help that person however you can. Listen, offer advice if that person asks for it, pray for & with that person & even learn about NPD.
And, everyone must understand what narcissistic abuse & NPD really are. The meaning of the word “narcissism” has been so tainted. Many people think being narcissistic is the same thing as being selfish when in fact, it is so very much more than simple selfishness. The true meaning of narcissism is so diluted & that needs to change! Raising awareness by talking about narcissistic abuse & NPD openly will help to make that change.
So remember, Dear Reader- speak out about narcissistic abuse! Help to raise awareness! Help victims!