Genesis 2:23-24 in the Amplified Bible says, “Then Adam said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, & flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ 24 For this reason, a man shall leave his father & his mother, & shall be joined to his wife; & they shall become one flesh.” These verses show how important it is to grow past the close ties with our family of origin in order to grow up. Leaving the family’s nest is a vital step in becoming the person God has called us to be. Today, we will discuss why staying too involved with family can be unhealthy & how to find freedom in God’s will.
It is perfectly normal to love & care for our families. However, when we are too involved or dependent on them, especially as adults, it can hinder personal & spiritual growth. Staying too involved with family can lead to unhealthy emotional attachments, unhealthy & unrealistic expectations, stress & strain on all of our relationships.
Additionally, staying too involved with family can prevent us from living our own lives & fulfilling our God-given purpose. When we prioritize our family’s desires & opinions over what God is calling us to do, we may end up living an unfulfilling life that is not in alignment with our calling.
Finally, being overly involved with our family also hiders our ability to form deep & lasting relationships with other people. When we are overly focused on our family’s needs, we don’t give ourselves the time or space to develop meaningful relationships systems outside of our family.
When we become more independent from our family, we are able to cultivate a deeper relationship with God, letting Him guide our steps & mold us into the person He created us to be. We also are able to grow & develop as individuals. We can explore new interests, engage in personal hobbies, & pursue our passions without feeling tied down by familial expectations. And, when we establish healthy boundaries with our family, our relationships can improve as family members aren’t so deeply involved in our lives.
We must communicate & enforce our boundaries with family members. This isn’t always easy, especially if the family members are narcissists, but it’s necessary. Establishing healthy boundaries is vital. If your family members are narcissistic, don’t show them any emotion because if you do, they will use that to manipulate you. Remain calm & firm. Remind yourself that you have every right to healthy boundaries, & they aren’t harming your relatives, no matter what they might say. Healthy boundaries are always a very good thing!
Seek support & encouragement from others outside of our family unit. Connecting with like-minded people can help provide affirmation, guidance, & encouragement to continue pursuing God’s will. They also can pray for & with you, & they will help to keep you grounded. All of which will help you to avoid falling back into old, dysfunctional habits.
Remember, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be an independent adult. It doesn’t mean you want nothing to do with your family or even hate them. It simply means you’re a normal person with a normal desire that every single person has.
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