I recently read an article that discussed real evil. It claimed real evil doesn’t hide, it is fearless, it makes its plans known & basically shows them off. As I read this article, I thought how completely inaccurate the statement is. Real evil isn’t always so easy to spot. If it was, life would be much easier because everyone would recognize evil & could avoid it.
In truth, real evil hides its true motives. Considering what I believe are some signs of real evil, that confirms to me what I’ve suspected for many years, that narcissism is evil & even demonic in nature.
It can come across as naivete, as if someone truly has no idea their actions are less than good & pure. Covert narcissists are prime examples of this. They often come across as simple, not very intelligent people. While their overt counterparts cringe at the thought of someone thinking they are anything less than super intelligent, covert narcissists love to be underestimated. This helps them to do whatever awful deeds they wish to do & get away with it because people think they truly don’t know any better.
Real evil also hides behind a mask of pretending that all abuse is done for the ultimate benefit of the victim. My mother used to claim that her abuse wasn’t abuse at all. It was done to help me. In fact when her abuse hit its peak when I was in my late teens, she said she was “trying to save me from myself,” & it was merely “tough love” done because she was trying to help me. That so called tough love involved raging at me daily, often multiple times a day, berating me & more. Many narcissists do the same thing to their victims, abuse them while claiming the abuse is done to benefit their victim somehow.
Real evil denies & excuses bad & abusive behavior, rather than accepting responsibility for it. A functional & healthy person may not like to do it, but they’ll admit their bad behavior & accept responsibility for it. They try never to repeat it.
Real evil also blames victims for making someone abuse them. This is incredibly low & wicked, in my opinion, because it abuses a victim twice while absolving an abuser of blame. First, the victim is initially abused, then abused again by receiving the blame for making someone hurt him or her. The abuser is exonerated of all guilt for their cruelty by putting all blame unfairly on a victim.
Real evil never apologizes. A truly evil person may say the words, “I’m sorry”, but they won’t mean it. In fact, they’ll give what I call a non apology. This means rather than saying, “I’m sorry I hurt you. I was wrong. What can I do to make it up to you?”, they will say something like, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” “I’m sorry I did that, but I wouldn’t have done it if you wouldn’t have done what you did.” or, “I said I was sorry… what else do you want from me?” The only reason they say the words “I’m sorry” is to appease their victim so they can resume their awful behavior.
While real evil can be obvious, such as in the case of serial killers, it most often is very subtle like in the examples I have given.
When dealing with a narcissist, if you start to believe their lies, I pray you’ll remember these points. Real evil is subtle & manipulative. Narcissists use it to their best advantage while tearing down their victims. Being aware of their tactics can help you to avoid further narcissistic abuse in the future.