Have you ever met someone who seemed to make you feel inferior, no matter what you did? Maybe they were critical of everything you said or did, or maybe they exhibited narcissistic behaviors that made you feel like you were always failing, wrong or walking on eggshells around them. These people can be toxic, & oftentimes, their behavior stems from deep-seated insecurity that they’re not willing to address.
Insecure people often exhibit behaviors that can be harmful to those around them. They may act smug or superior to hide their insecurity, in an effort to make others feel inferior. They may find comfort in routine & stability, to the point that they resist change. This means that they’ll fight change hard enough to hurt others, even if the change is necessary. They can also be very critical & competitive, always trying to prove themselves, put others down or do both at the same time. Many even exhibit narcissistic behaviors to hide their insecurity, some evolving into full-blown narcissists. These behaviors can be especially harmful if they’re not addressed.
It’s important to note that not all insecure people exhibit toxic behavior. Some may keep their insecurity to themselves, while others may actively work to address it in healthy ways. However, when insecurity is allowed to fester & manifest in harmful behaviors, it can become toxic.
It’s also worth mentioning that everyone experiences insecurity at some point in their lives. It’s perfectly natural. However, it’s how we deal with that insecurity that can make it toxic. If we’re not willing to address it, it can manifest in harmful ways that hurt both ourselves & those around us.
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who exhibits this type of harmful behavior, you need to take action to protect yourself & those around you. The first step is to ask God for help. Pray for wisdom, discernment & guidance in identifying the toxic behavior & the best course of action to take.
When dealing with someone like this, it’s also important to logically question what the toxic person is saying. Don’t take their criticism or put-downs at face value. Instead, ask yourself if what they’re saying is true. If it’s not, don’t internalize their negativity. And ask them other questions such as to clarify what they’re saying, why they are saying this & what evidence do they have that what they’re saying is true.
Setting healthy boundaries is also a must. Be clear about what behavior is acceptable & what is not. It may mean limiting your interactions with the toxic person, or even ending the relationship altogether if they’re unwilling to change the behaviors that they know continually hurts you.
If you find yourself feeling guilty about ending a toxic relationship, remember that staying enables their bad behavior & hurts you. No good comes from that. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being & surround yourself with positive, supportive people who lift you up instead of tearing you down.
Ending a toxic relationship can be difficult, but it’s often necessary for your own = well-being. You deserve to be treated with respect & kindness! You also have the power to create healthy relationships in your life.
Ultimately, it’s up to the toxic person to address their insecurity & harmful behavior. You can’t force them to change, but you can take control of your own life & set boundaries that protect you from their toxicity. You can protect yourself from their toxicity & create healthy, positive relationships in your life.
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