Have you ever felt resentment in your marriage? You’re not alone. Resentment can arise from various sources, & today, we will explore some common causes of resentment in marriage.
Resentment is a complex emotion that can stem from various factors. It is not solely the result of one person’s actions or shortcomings. Marriage is a two way street, & both partners can contribute to the dynamics that can lead to resentment.
One of the most common causes of resentment in a relationship is not feeling like your spouse prioritizes you. This feeling of being overlooked can be particularly painful for victims of narcissistic abuse, who struggle with low self esteem, but it is painful for anyone.
Compromise is an essential aspect of any healthy relationship. It allows both partners to find common ground & make decisions that benefit the overall well being of the relationship. The concept of selflessness can sometimes blur the lines between being taken advantage of & healthy compromise. You may find yourself constantly putting your own needs aside to accommodate your spouse’s desires, leaving you feeling unfulfilled & dismissed. When one person consistently finds themselves making the majority of sacrifices, it breeds resentment & feelings of unfairness.
Feeling taken for granted can be incredibly disheartening, leading to resentment & emotional distance in a relationship. When you strive to show kindness & appreciation towards others, it becomes very challenging when you don’t receive the same treatment in return.
In situations like this, it’s important to express your feelings & needs. Healthy relationships require both partners to be willing to understand & acknowledge each other’s needs. An open conversation can lead towards finding a balance that respects both spouses’ desires. Make a time to sit down together & discuss your relationship, without distractions, when you both are calm & able to talk comfortably & openly.
Most importantly, pray. Pray for your spouse & your marriage. Pray to know God’s will for your life & marriage. Pray for wisdom. Pray with your spouse too, not only alone, if they are willing to do this.
If you are in the miserable situation of having a narcissistic spouse, I know such suggestion will not work due to their lack of empathy & desire to do anything for anyone if it can’t benefit them. In such a case, I don’t believe there is anything you can say or do to make them want to stop treating you this way.
Resentment can be a challenging emotion to navigate. By understanding some common causes of resentment, you can begin to address these issues & work towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Remember, it’s important to approach these conversations with empathy & a willingness to listen to your partner’s perspective. Relationships require effort from both partners, & by fostering open communication & mutual understanding, you can create a stronger foundation for addressing & overcoming resentment.
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